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Getting over your first same sex love?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by MaryMyers, Jun 29, 2013.

  1. MaryMyers

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    This woman and I are both in our early twenties and were never officially in a relationship due to both being in the closet, but we were loyal to each other for the four months we were more-than-friends. She ended it recently because her mother is completely homophobic and began to make her life at home miserable when she found out about us.

    A few days ago we caught up for the first time since it ended, and after some emotional conversation and a few drinks, ended up kissing - and even having sex. I didn't think it affected me, but the more I think about her being free to do whatever (and whoever) she likes, the more it gets to me. I finally came out to my mum (who's completely fine with it), but still don't know any girls who I could see myself dating, so she'll probably move on a lot faster than I will. She also still wants to sleep with me occasionally, which I would enjoy too, but it may be difficult for me if I still have feelings for her.

    What can I do to cope with this better? I'd never been so emotionally and physically involved with anyone prior to her (she had though). Any opinions/advice/personal stories would be great, thanks!