The random questions of GAYNESS - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people coming out

Otsuke · 13th Sep 2009, 07:16 PM

Haha! Hey everyone!
Wow... it has been a long time since I've posted... O.O ... Anyways...
I thought of this topic lately. In fact, I always think about those questions.... So I finally figured that maybe other people have those questions too !! And maybe they have even MORE questions !!! And fortunately, maybe they have ANSWERS!!

Okay, this is not a serious topic... Not that I know of XD. But here are my stupid questions about GAYNESS ! XD << yes, gayness.

You know, a guy with a girl is what I would call NORMALITY. And in this normality, the guy pays the restaurant bill at the first date, he climbs the wall until the window to find his flower and blabla... but in gay couples, who does that? O.O

When we are at our first date, in a restaurant, who is supposed to pay the bill? The guy? Or the OTHER guy? .... Who climbs the outside wall? The guy? Or the OTHER guy?

If you're able to answer, stupidly or smartly, go right away !

XD... And if you guys have questions too (stupid or not) ASK them so I won't feel alone... lol.

notquitebutch · 13th Sep 2009, 07:18 PM

Haha well, I guess whoever asks the other one on the date should pay. Could you imagine having someone ask you out to eat and expecting you to cover the bill? Yikes.

For all the other things, whoever is the more dominant person I guess. There's really no set one... whoever wants to.

endless poetry · 13th Sep 2009, 07:28 PM

yeah I had one...

what happens when two men walk down the aisle at a wedding? Two women it`s easy both their fathers are there to walk them down, but two men? do they both wait in the front like two grooms in "straight" weddings or both get walked by their fathers like two brides in "straight" weddings......

anyone been to a gay wedding?

Otsuke · 13th Sep 2009, 07:32 PM

Good question endless poetry !! Seriously, I've never been to a gay wedding but... Sounds like we have a lot to discover about gay life! HEHE... isn't exciting? ;D

Black Cat · 13th Sep 2009, 07:37 PM

Well I say whoever asks the other out first pays, if they are unable to than split it 50/50, even straight couples do that these days.

I don't know about the wedding question, I've never been to a gay wedding before. If and when I get married though, my I want my mom to do that part if the whole giving someone away is involved in my wedding.

My question:

Should one give the other guy a small gift on dates, like an equivalent to the guy bringing the girl flowers or anything?

endless poetry · 13th Sep 2009, 07:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Otsuke

Good question endless poetry !! Seriously, I've never been to a gay wedding but... Sounds like we have a lot to discover about gay life! HEHE... isn't exciting? ;D

yay it`s a whole gay world and a lifetime to discover it XP !

Quote:

Originally Posted by Black Cat

My question:

Should one give the other guy a small gift on dates, like an equivalent to the guy bringing the girl flowers or anything?

I personally would exchange romantic/meaningful gifts, but that`s just me, and I`m allowed because I`m francophone, but....

Jay D · 16th Sep 2009, 12:49 PM

I like romantic gifts ... girls love them for some reason.

Otsuke · 17th Sep 2009, 06:27 PM

Oh it's cute! And it's a good question ... a gift on the first date? Yes I would say it's interesting... But you know, the boy will (for exemple) buy flowers.... but a guy? Guys, would you like to receive flowers? XD... I don't know, i'm just asking !!

HazMattic_Force · 17th Sep 2009, 06:59 PM

i would enjoy flowers or another small token of appreciation XD, and im at a loss on marriage and want to know know ... XD lol and bill can go however whether 50/50 , paid by one complete or one pays on then next gets next ....etcetera

17th Sep 2009, 07:35 PM

I'd love getting flowers, but I'd feel awkward carrying them around... XD And I personally think the person who asked the other out should pay at least the first time, and after that maybe fifty-fifty.

Gaetan · 17th Sep 2009, 08:35 PM

If/when I ever get married, I want it to be rather simple. My boyfriend and I standing in front of a judge saying our "I dos". Stamp on the paper, we're done. None of this silly ceremonial stuff.

And, honestly, I'd want it that way even if I were straight.

werekid · 18th Sep 2009, 03:00 AM

i guess you can both pay the bills or on one day one guy then the next time you pay

-Michael- · 18th Sep 2009, 03:30 AM

What does the priest say?

"I now pronounce you husband and...well...urm...husband.

you may kiss the....husband?"

**Rosina** · 18th Sep 2009, 11:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by -Michael-

What does the priest say?

"I now pronounce you husband and...well...urm...husband.

you may kiss the....husband?"

Haha, probably XD I have this vision of a priest thinking he's doing another marriage ceremony and then his eyes popping out as he realises who's in front of him XD

From what I've heard (of family friend and her now-wife), since one held the more masculine role in the relationship, and the other feminine, they wore a tux and a dress respectively, but both were walked down the aisle by their fathers, tux first then dress. It sounded really sweet

13th Sep 2009, 07:16 PM	#1
Otsuke EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 352 Join Date: Jul 2009	The random questions of GAYNESS Haha! Hey everyone! Wow... it has been a long time since I've posted... O.O ... Anyways... I thought of this topic lately. In fact, I always think about those questions.... So I finally figured that maybe other people have those questions too !! And maybe they have even MORE questions !!! And fortunately, maybe they have ANSWERS!! Okay, this is not a serious topic... Not that I know of XD. But here are my stupid questions about GAYNESS ! XD << yes, gayness. You know, a guy with a girl is what I would call NORMALITY. And in this normality, the guy pays the restaurant bill at the first date, he climbs the wall until the window to find his flower and blabla... but in gay couples, who does that? O.O When we are at our first date, in a restaurant, who is supposed to pay the bill? The guy? Or the OTHER guy? .... Who climbs the outside wall? The guy? Or the OTHER guy? If you're able to answer, stupidly or smartly, go right away ! XD... And if you guys have questions too (stupid or not) ASK them so I won't feel alone... lol.

13th Sep 2009, 07:18 PM	#2
notquitebutch ...and the lesbians. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: All but family Location: Temple U (soon!) Age: 20 Posts: 296 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS Haha well, I guess whoever asks the other one on the date should pay. Could you imagine having someone ask you out to eat and expecting you to cover the bill? Yikes. For all the other things, whoever is the more dominant person I guess. There's really no set one... whoever wants to. __________________ With the invention of the hipster, us homos are in a constant state of camouflage.... Does she make out with chicks, or is she just wearing flannel to be fashionable? -Hannah Hart

13th Sep 2009, 07:28 PM	#3
endless poetry We're off to see the wizard Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends know Location: Ottawa Age: 19 Posts: 549 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS yeah I had one... what happens when two men walk down the aisle at a wedding? Two women it`s easy both their fathers are there to walk them down, but two men? do they both wait in the front like two grooms in "straight" weddings or both get walked by their fathers like two brides in "straight" weddings...... anyone been to a gay wedding? __________________ Se eu te pudesse abraçar. Written no book of this life, I am a mere pamphlet who thinks that I am a best selling novel.

13th Sep 2009, 07:32 PM	#4
Otsuke EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 352 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS Good question endless poetry !! Seriously, I've never been to a gay wedding but... Sounds like we have a lot to discover about gay life! HEHE... isn't exciting? ;D

13th Sep 2009, 07:37 PM	#5
Black Cat Ever The Consummate Gentleman... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania Age: 22 Posts: 2,985 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS Well I say whoever asks the other out first pays, if they are unable to than split it 50/50, even straight couples do that these days. I don't know about the wedding question, I've never been to a gay wedding before. If and when I get married though, my I want my mom to do that part if the whole giving someone away is involved in my wedding. My question: Should one give the other guy a small gift on dates, like an equivalent to the guy bringing the girl flowers or anything? __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

16th Sep 2009, 12:49 PM	#7
Jay D First Lady of the Gothickan Empire. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Everyone knows I'm straight Location: Norwich, Norfolk. Age: 21 Posts: 271 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS I like romantic gifts ... girls love them for some reason. __________________

17th Sep 2009, 06:27 PM	#8
Otsuke EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 352 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS Oh it's cute! And it's a good question ... a gift on the first date? Yes I would say it's interesting... But you know, the boy will (for exemple) buy flowers.... but a guy? Guys, would you like to receive flowers? XD... I don't know, i'm just asking !!

17th Sep 2009, 06:59 PM	#9
HazMattic_Force EC's Residential Raver Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Little Rock, Arkansas Age: 20 Posts: 805 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS i would enjoy flowers or another small token of appreciation XD, and im at a loss on marriage and want to know know ... XD lol and bill can go however whether 50/50 , paid by one complete or one pays on then next gets next ....etcetera __________________ Humanity is Sadism at its Finest .

17th Sep 2009, 07:35 PM	#10
Drizzt DoUrden Guest Posts: n/a Tournaments Won: 15	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS I'd love getting flowers, but I'd feel awkward carrying them around... XD And I personally think the person who asked the other out should pay at least the first time, and after that maybe fifty-fifty.

17th Sep 2009, 08:35 PM	#11
Gaetan DON'T TOUCH THE HAT! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Immediate Family and Friends Location: Idaho, USA Age: 27 Posts: 1,098 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS If/when I ever get married, I want it to be rather simple. My boyfriend and I standing in front of a judge saying our "I dos". Stamp on the paper, we're done. None of this silly ceremonial stuff. And, honestly, I'd want it that way even if I were straight. __________________ Those who say it cannot be done, shouldn't interrupt the people doing it.

18th Sep 2009, 03:00 AM	#12
werekid EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Kentucky Age: 20 Posts: 352 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS i guess you can both pay the bills or on one day one guy then the next time you pay

18th Sep 2009, 03:30 AM	#13
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 21 Posts: 2,298 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: The random questions of GAYNESS What does the priest say? "I now pronounce you husband and...well...urm...husband. you may kiss the....husband?"

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