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Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by LEG7930, Aug 5, 2013.

  1. LEG7930

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    So, just to start off I was born female, and currently identify as female. As far as sexual orientation I consider myself "lesbian" for the most part. I hate the word lesbian though, it just doesn't feel right for me...

    Since I was little I always wanted to be one of the boys, and now, 21 years old, feel like I should be a guy. I came out to my parents as bisexual a little over a year ago, and that went over terribly, so I can't even imagine coming out as trans* or transitioning or anything. I dress in male clothes for the most part with a few exceptions for work, and I just don't feel like I belong in my body somewhat. When I cut my hair really short last year my parents almost had a nervous breakdown, so now I have long hair again which I don't want. But ugh. I have a good number of trans* friends and I just admire their courage, but don't think I could ever go through with it unless I moved across the country or something and just did it, then told my parents, I don't even know. I am rambling now...

    I guess I am posting here more as a rant, but if you have any advice or words of wisdom, I won't turn them down :slight_smile:
     
  2. Mhin

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    Going to any other country that you think will accept you for what you want to be is not a good option, that's my view. Take everything one step at a time, since you already came out to your parents a year ago, I'm sure they will understand what you really want in life and what will make you happy.
     
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    Unfortunately, that's not always the case. My mother essentially said, without saying it, that if I transitioned, I'd be disowned. Then of course, the words "mutilating your body" were thrown around.

    Op already stated that coming out as bi to their parents didn't go over well. I doubt that coming out as trans would be any better.
     
  4. LEG7930

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    I wouldn't be going to another country, just across the country, so a different state. But that would be a last resort. And since coming out about a year ago nothing has really happened. I think they are a little more accepting, but the topic is just avoided really. I fear that if I mentioned ANYTHING about gender that I would be disowned, or maybe not disowned, but DEFINITELY not accepted. I am 99.9% sure it would be a VERY negative reaction.

    I guess at this point I am just trying to figure things out internally, and if I absolutely feel like I need to transition or something, I would have to really consider the feelings of not only myself, but also my relationship with my family.
     
  5. CuriousBunny

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    Do you live with your parents? If so, you should definitely wait until you move to transition or ponder the topic further.
     
  6. LEG7930

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    Unfortunately I was forced to move back home due to finances. So NO way I would do it while living with them, I agree with you on that.