Dear trans* people further along than I am,

I'm two years since coming out. I ended a relationship of almost 4 years just prior to coming out to friends and family. The first 6 months were very difficult, prolly the hardest time of my life. However, I never could have guessed how happy comfortable I could be. Two years later the dust is finally starting to settle amongst my family, and the rest of my life is beautifully ordinary. I'm an A student, a waitress at a fantastic restaurant, I have lots of friends and freedom, and every day I become more and more comfortable with my body and with my identity. Stresses don't go away, but I can say with absolute certainty that my life is a million times better now than it was two years ago. Keep strong, hon. It gets better.

 

I came out crying to my dad and stepmother. And you know what? Everything went perfect! They are very supporting, and so are my siblings and my uncle
But the best part is my mother: she was very transphobic, homophobic and racist, but now she is being very supporting of the LGBTQ* community and I plan on coming out to her soon!
Things can change and become better than expected, believe on it!

Good luck!

 

I've been in the coming out process since 2010 and I currently have an amazing partner who is super accepting and loving. He's told me in many phone calls we've had that he doesn't see me as a trans*guy, but a guy. Like fully, and that's so awesome since I rarely experience validation.

While my family has been a bit of a pain for me, and my dysphoria has landed me in the hospital a lot this year; things are looking pretty positive for me. I haven't engaged in self-harm in four months and I haven't had a drink of alcohol in two; two things I used to do quite a bit earlier this year. I'm becoming more confident and happy with the man I see looking back at me in the mirror, something that would trip me up when I was 17.

I'm hoping to get my name changed before I turn 21 and with my luck get closer to getting approved for T and top surgery. Things take time, but in the end they'll work out. Just keep your chin up and try to be confident, positive and patient.