I don't know how it works or anyway, she tells me she's called a social worker, not a therapist. Anyway, I feel like telling her about my feelings about wanting to be a girl, but being scared to going throught with it because "what if" I'm just going hrought a phase even though I had feelings before. Long ago, that was mildly thinking, but I think about it almost constantly. I came back from the military and she is a Veterans Affairs Social Worker. She said she won't judge me about anything, but i don't know how true that is. I'm 22, and I worry about how I look and I usually don't like it.
A lot of transwomen go into the military to try and force themselves to "man up" and then end up coming home and transitioning. Plus with Kristen Beck out there as a spotlight transgender veteran, who was involved in the Bin Laden raid no less, I wouldn't be surprised if a social worked specialising in military affairs has come across it before. So try not to worry and be confident.
Social workers have similar training to psychotherapists and, in a mental health setting, provide the same services as therapists do. She should also be, if she was relatively recently trained, familiar with trans issues and able to understand and help you with them. The fact that she's directly told you she won't judge you is an indication she probably is capable of accepting what you tell her and helping you to work through the issues. If you don't tell her... so much of what you're going to be experiencing is tied up around that issue that it's going to really affect the benefit you get from therapy, so I wouldn't hold back.
You should tell her. She'll be better able to help you. If she's a decent social worker she will not judge you.
