Wanting to push gender-boundries more

I had a similar sickness, but idk how give tips =[

 

Hmm, have you thought about binding? I think it's also pretty cool to do stuff like bind while wearing dresses, etc. Neat stuff can also be done with artistically drawn stubble/facial hair.

 

lol, this is not the first time I hear this. You certainly have fellows.

What about a beard and women's clothes? I know there are women who have a real beard (hormonal thing?) and I was surprised to learn how good and natural it looked. I would have never guessed. It has perhaps a lot to do with the selfconfidence the women certainly have.

 

Oh yeah? OH YEAH? OH YEAH?

Seriously don't worry about it. You don't need to walk on eggshells, and I hate that people sometimes feel like they have to with this stuff.

Honestly I felt a little bit of that the first couple times I tried on peep-toed flats in the store. I was doing it in boy mode and the IDGAF of it all felt pretty good. Like I had just won over all that pressure that had kept me in the closet and terrified for so long, it wasn't a big deal any more. If it didn't make me feel even more like crap about myself wearing skirts when I have facial hair I'd probably do it too. But yeah I think people that do gender bending are pretty awesome people on the whole.

Really I think the reason a lot of us feel the way we do and say what we say about the whole obviously-a-guy-in-a-dress stuff is because that's all that's out there, and it's always the butt of a joke. I don't take myself overly serious, but you know, when there's nothing else but, it does make things harder to come to terms with yourself.

Ironically enough, I think personally if there were more people like you that just do it just to screw with people and have fun, then it would be easier for those of us that do need to transition to come to terms with who we are and have more self respect. People like me that need to go the whole 9 yards have to spend some time in the middle anyway, so if there were more people making the middle feel good, then I think it would be easier to transition, is the way I look at things.

Just the way things are right now... well you said it yourself, you'd be gender bending to express yourself, right? Well, a lot of us can't express who we really are, and sometimes when it all gets overwhelming, we just need to be able to get it out how much it sucks being viewed as a Mrs. Doubtfire every day, and I think maybe you overheard some of that and were worried you might be offending people? I can only speak for me, but you so aren't.

Also, and this is really a big thing with a lot of us, when we come out the most common reaction people have is "why can't you just ______". That's all coming out, gay, trans, a superhero from another planet, whatever. Well, our fill in the blank when we say "I need to change my physical sex" is... and here I am worrying about offending you, but people will tell us "why can't you just be a cross dresser" or "why can't you be genderqueer" or the far more common and even MORE offensive "why can't you be gay". From people that would probably do the exact same thing if we told them we were gay nonetheless, and nevermind what our actual sexual preference is. In fact, I usually think about this onion article where they joke about people being one sex change away from a gay marriage, Conservatives Warn Quick Sex Change Only Barrier Between Gays, Marriage | Video | The Onion - America's Finest News Source . Everyone's got to go through this stage, it's called bargaining. And a lot of us have dealt with a lot of people's bargaining phase. Which, again, we need to be able to complain about sometimes.

So please do NOT let that crap get in the way of you expressing yourself. It's got nothing to do with you. There is plenty of room for both of us and again I think you're pretty awesome

Right so practical advice. You know when I hear the word "genderqueer"... did you ever see the Keanu Reeves "Constantine" movie? The angel from that? That's my idea. Really angels are the first thing that comes to mind when people tell me they don't have a gender. Or Desire from the Sandman comics if you've ever read those.

If you haven't there's something useful for you there, 'e wears a lot of suits. I think suits and uniforms of any kind really are good for that androgynous, both-sexy-and-handsome look.

And yeah if you are going for just screwing with people's perceptions you can't do better than a beard and a dress. When I was in drama (and too young to grow any real facial hair yet) the way we would do it was, there's some kinds of glue that are safe to put on your face like this stuff,

Amazon.com: Water Washable Costume Theatrical Face Facial Adhesive: Clothing

and then for hair, those cheap hair extensions at the dollar store, cut one up in the kitchen and voila, beard hair for a buck.

 

That was my dad. He hated the idea of me doing girly things.

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Thank you Cassie. I wanted to quote your whole post and then put five million smily faces, but that seemed excessive. So instead I'll just say, you're awesome.