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Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by lostboy429, Oct 24, 2013.

  1. lostboy429

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    I feel so lost. Recently, I've noticed I relate more as a girl than a boy. I have never had these type of thoughts before. I confused beyond belief. Is what I'm feeling normal? How am i supposed to feel about this? Can anyone help me please??
     
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    What do you mean relate? If you mean that you don't like to hang out with boys but you like to hang out with girls I totally understand. Boys are just idiots sometimes. Girls I relate to more and I can talk to more. Or do you mean you would like to be a girl?
     
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    lostboy429,
    Define, in this instance: relate
     
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    relate as in i feel more like a girl.
     
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    OK So you feel more like a girl.

    HOW exactly do you feel more like a girl?
     
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    Ive always been more feminine than what a boy should. i know that being as gay as i am, im supposed to be more feminine, but its beyond what is normal for a boy.
     
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    have you ever imagined your life where you are actually a woman? Imagine people calling you by a female name, referring to you as a she, and thinking of you in terms of your societies female norms. You may simply be a feminine male, yet not really a woman; gender can be confusing, so it would be better if you could separate your sexuality and your gender (who you identify with/yourself as).
     
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    i have imagined all of this and it only makes me realize that i want to be female even more. it feels right, like i actually should have born a girl
     
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    Well then, maybe you are a girl on the inside, and that's what's important. The next thing you should do is seek out a gender counselor, see how he/she can help you.
     
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    How would i go about that? Where would i find one?
     
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    Google is your friend; generally, there are many you around any given area, though you need to watch out for bias therapist as they tend to see only the more extreme cases as being legitimate.
     
  12. lostboy429

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    Thank you so much :slight_smile:
     
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    Hey no problem; I'm currently going through the same thing, so I know how you feel.
     
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    I'm glad you know where to go lostboy429. :slight_smile: Let us know how it goes if it's alright with you. Thanks. :wink:
     
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    I'm glad i found this site. I have had soooo much help in the short time I've been here. Thank you all for your support :slight_smile:
     
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    Yes, I totally agree and feel the same way