Hi i have a question, is it gay if i find a muscular man attractive? I don't have any desires to sleep with a man or have any sexual attraction towards men. So is this attraction in a form of admiration?
I would say so. There is nothing wrong with admiring good physique. Admiring does not mean you are gay or straight, it just means you know what looks good
Pretty much. Next time something like this happens, ask yourself, "Do I want to be that guy, or do I want to be with him?"
Well i got not desire to sleep or have sex with a guy and i could never picture myself with a guy simply because that aint me. I got sexual orientation ocd aswell and tried watching gay porn but it grosses me out and does nothing for me. I dont get aroused or have sexual thoughts about it. Same is if i say a guy is sexy, good looking or handsome without no sexual thoughts or sexual attraction or arousal or anything. I mean i have a girlfriend and i love her and have always been sexually and emotionally attracted to girls and never to a man. So isnt it just admiring physique then?
you can admire someone for their internal characteristics and qualities. Kind of like that essays everyone have to write on "who's your admirer/who you look up to" or something
Hm but this isnt, internal if i say brad pitt is handsome, sexy or good looking, without any sexual or emotional attraction, just that he looks good/physique
Its perfectly possible to admire a guy without finding him sexually attractive. The point I was making is that you shouldn't look to your behaviour to tell you whether the attraction is sexual or not, you should judge it by the quality of attraction you're feeling. To put into context, does it feel similar to the attraction you feel for your girlfriend? If not, then don't worry about it. If so, then you may well be bisexual. But also, don't worry. You said it yourself, you have a girlfriend, you're attracted to her, and you love her. What would it matter if you were attracted to guys as well (and I'm not saying you are). But really, you're not blind. Anyone can notice that someone is attractive. You don't have to be sexually attracted to them to do so.
Well when i look at a guy like i said i dont feel the attractiveness, more as oh hes handsome or something, the attractiveness i get from my girlfriend well thats ofc a whole othrr story, she gives me a boner just talking to her lol. How could i be bisexual if i never felt emotionally or sexually to a guy aswell, i feel and always have felt that for women. So if i find a guy good looking theres no excitement or feeling of attraction besides finding some guy handsome. never had a crush or even thought bout those things or had such kind of attraction towards men so. Must be admiration then. Cause i could never picture myself having a relationship or sex with a guy lol, and never fell in love with a guy, never had feelings for guy. If you never had/can have feelings for a guy from a sexually and emotional perspective, it must mean theres nothing wrong with me right?
I never said you were bisexual, just that it was for you to decide. You sound like you're straight, mate. But I think I speak for everyone when I ask you not the refer to non-heterosexuals as 'having something wrong with them'.
Bagginses i believe you didn't read all my previous posts lol.. ---------- Post added 5th Nov 2013 at 04:09 PM ---------- I never said theres something wrong with homosexuals, transsexuals, bisexuals or anything, i just thought maybe there is something about me which thats why i posted here. Im very openminded in people having other orientations, and if people are they way they are well thats fine by me no matter what their gender or orientation is. I didn't mean to offend.
Thats alright. Mistakes are allowed. But I don't see how the quoted statement could be interpreted differently.
Yes, you can find someone attractive and still not be gay. You find different art attractive so why not different human bodies? It does not mean you want to own that art piece, just look at it and admire it. I am definately NOT straight, and I still admire attractive guys. If you can't imagine yourself in a relationship with the same sex, feeling fufilled, you are not gay.
