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Can you control trans thoughts?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Minnie, Nov 7, 2013.

  1. Minnie

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    What I'm getting at is this: is being transgender something you can't choose, like your sexuality? Sometimes I feel more like a boy but I'm happier when I feel like a girl. It's really only when I acknowledge that I find women sexually attractive that I get like this... then again, I used to be boyish before realising I'm gay but didn't think much of it.
     
  2. CharlieHK

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    Just like being gay, being trans* is no choice. However if you fluctuate between male and female you may want to look into what being gender-fluid is. If your attraction fluctuates you may be bisexual, or even pansexual.

    It's no choice being trans*. You can try to brainwash yourself out of it...but trust me...it doesn't work.
     
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    Sure, you can ignore them now, but as time goes on they will come back with a vengeance later. Embracing who you are can be hard, but if you do it now, you'll thank yourself later that you did.
     
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    Nope, I can't control being a man. Its who I am.
     
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    Nope. I tried that. Didn't work.
    But I don't think you're transgender.
    Have you heard about the people who are "genderfluid"?
    They sometimes feel like they're one gender, and sometimes they feel they are another gender.
     
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    Once it dawned on me that it was socially unacceptable for me to be a boy, I tried to be a girl really really hard, but even though I have some "feminine" interests and characteristics and actually really like dresses, there was always a little voice in the back of my head going "yeah, but you're not a girl though". I tried to ignore that voice so hard that once I finally admitted it was there, I almost couldn't handle it for a while.

    It's definitely not something you can choose to experience.
     
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    Like with your sexuality, being transgender/cisgender IS NOT a choice. Either you are or you aren't. As someone mentioned, you can ignore it...but eventually it will bite back hard (personal experience).