Hey, I am a 21 year old male from the UK. I have been diagnosed with OCD but I am scared it might have been a misdiagnosis and I am really just a transsexual I hope it is OCD so I can stay as a man but there is some scary evidence suggesting I am trans as I mention below. Also when I was a kid I thought it would be cool if I could be the worlds firsts man to have a baby, I saw a film where a man had a baby. So this could have been an early sign? It is really hard for me at the moment cos I don't know whether it is OCD or transsexualism. I don't like leaving my room and I'm scared to go out and do things in case I will have to have a sex change. It is kinda hard to word but I'm scared to like start a career in case I will have to have a sex change in the future and put everything on hold. Also I have thoughts that say "I am a woman" and "I am a transsexual" so I dunno if that is a sign of transsexualism cos I have read that OCD poses itself as "what ifs" but I have thoughts that say "I am" I mean I have worried "what if" I am a transsexual but I get intrusive thoughts saying I am a transsexual all day long. Also sometimes when I see images of hot females, I think "I want to look like that" then I freak out about the thought. I don't have dysphoria about my genitals and I don't have a long persistent wish to be a female. I don't dislike being called male things and in the past I have been annoyed when people have used female pronouns on me. Like once I was in an exercise class and the instructor said "right then ladies" and I thought "whaaat? I am not a woman" Also I sometimes get intrusive images of like a spike going through my penis and stuff but I don't get pleasure from the thoughts. I just get anxious and scared. I have had similar thoughts about forks going in my eyes and stuff but I get penis ones every now and again too. I used to work out and I enjoyed building muscles and stuff
Well first off, no it doesn't sound like you are. You don't want to be a woman, you don't hate your body, you don't want to change. Aside from an occasional thought of "I am a woman/transexual" that appear to have no basis in reality you show none of the signs I would recognize as suggesting anything. However, if it turns out you are trans, nobody says you HAVE to have, as you put it, 'a sex change'.
Hi, OCD sufferer here who is also trans. You do know you are making your OCD worse through asking for reassurance here right? I do understand your motivation for asking though, as I know all too well how hard it can be to distinguish real thoughts from OCD thoughts. Honestly I don't need to read further than this though, "I hope it is OCD so I can stay as a man". Trans women don't want to stay as men, they want to be/feel they are women. I am trans but because I have OCD I sometimes get OCD thoughts about NOT being trans, and they scare me JUST as much as your OCD scares you that you are trans lol. OCD really sucks, so I feel bad for you but you NEED to not seek reassurance as it will only make your OCD far far worse.
nope. your not trans.... you like being a male.. us trans? we hate being male... thats why we try so hard to alter ourselves...
HELPPPPPPPPPPP!!! I can't handle it, I think I am transgender cos ll day I have the thoughts in my head "I am a woman" and last night I went out with 2 female friends and when I looked at one of them I had the thought "I want to be a woman" HELPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!
Swagboy, you need to see an OCD specialist, this is likely not the best forum for you for this particular issue. It is not the thoughts that are the problem, it is your reaction to them that is causing them to come back over and over again. I KNOW this is a hell of a cycle to break, but it can be done, but not by coming on here and asking us if you are trans. If we tell you you are not, it just makes things worse.
Yeah, you posted this same exact post on another forum.... Getting worked up like this and stuff isn't helping things. Tayb seems to know what she's talking about; it'd be a good idea to see a specialist.
Tayb I think that this is more than OCD though. See this: To me, that suggests that this is a gender identity issue rather than an OCD issue. I think OCD must have just been my way of coping with being a transsexual. I guess I am still in the stages of accepting I am a transsexual.
If you could wake up tomorrow in any kind of body to live the rest of your life with, what would that body be? You'd have to be in this body for every day, and there is no turning back! If you do not want a sexchange, you do not need a sexchange. It looks to me as if you're overthinking things. If these thoughts persist for a longer period of time and only become stronger, then you might want to go and look for a therapist.
The problem is, that what your saying doesn't connect. On the one hand you have: " I think I am transgender cos all day I have the thoughts in my head "I am a woman" and last night I went out with 2 female friends and when I looked at one of them I had the thought "I want to be a woman" 'I am a woman'. I've already accepted this as the thing that is happening. Then on the other hand...I'm not even sure HOW to describe the other side of things, because you are asking 'does this make me' and you seem scared of the idea, which is fine, but you seem SO convinced of the idea that you dismiss the idea that it might be linked to OCD. It just seems odd to keep asking the question when you keep insisting that you already know. Please don't misinterpret and take my words as me trying to keep you out of some exclusive trans club, I'm not. If you really do feel that transitioning is what you need, then I'm all for it BUT considering all the things you have said I would take Tayb's advice and see a specialist. I mean either they help you with OCD OR they tell you that it's unrelated and we can help you deal with trans thoughts.
Hello :smilewave Thank you for replying I don't feel that transitioning is what I need, it's more that I have to do it because I am a transsexual who is pre-op. I thought it could be linked to OCD but at the end of the day I think that is just me hoping that I am not trans and latching onto something. I am pretty sure that I am a transsexual and I am gonna have to transition. I am just not ready to do it yet. I have seen a specialist in the past and I am hopefully gonna speak to a counsellor this evening. Basically I have thought I am a transsexual for over a year and I have had the thoughts "I am a woman" "I am a transsexual" "I want to be a woman" This is different to OCD which takes the form of "what if I am a woman? omg I will have to transition etc" I have had what if thoughts in relation to transsexualism but I have also had "I am..." statements that repeat in my mind e.g. I am a woman - This to me suggests that this is more of a transsexualism issue, rather than an OCD issue. Don't get me wrong, I would love for this to just be an OCD issue so I can avoid having to transition and becoming a woman but realistically this is a gender identity issue.
"I don't feel that transitioning is what I need, it's more that I have to do it because I am a transsexual who is pre-op." No no no no no. Transitioning is something you do because otherwise you can't go on. You can't keep going the way you are. You do it because you NEED to be the person you are inside. It's an 'I must be the woman I feel I am inside' kind of feeling, not an "I'm probably trans so I'd better transition". Others might disagree with me here but I personally think it sounds like you are considering it for the wrong reasons. As you said, you would love for this to be an OCD thing. But for some reason, you don't seem to want to make sure it isn't before you do something about it.
It is such a confusing time for me but I am pretty sure that I'm a transsexual. I am a girl that is stuck in a man's body and I have a brain/body mismatch which I can fix with surgery and hormones so I know what I want. I plan to move away and cut myself off form my family before I begin transitioning.
