I Am Having Troubles Accepting Myself As A Woman

Well maybe see gender therapist since its only been a year and by your previous posts you dont have body dysphoria you dont know if you are exactly you could be gender fluid or you could just be transgender but a therapist will help you and saying oh i cant see a gender therapist because im not mentally prepared it smells a bit fishy no offense because most transgender people who could go to therapy would ump on that ship as quick as they could because then they could get help and guidance. I know I want to see a therapist but i cant becuase of money so you saying I cant because im emotionally unprepared no offense but it ticks me off bit because alot of transgender people cant go to therapy sometimes because of money issues or whatever and its like therapy helps so you have no reason to be unemotionally unprepared when they will help you that stuggle and it sounds like you dont want help and not listening to pepole on this forum Ive read your previous post and to me it doesn't sound like you are but you could be but it doesnt sound so much like it and if you are scared to a point of transtion you dont have to get hormones or surgery you can transtion socially but not physically and still wear womens clothes and all that just not doing it so physically if that scares you and have you ever thought you could be genderfluid?

 

Could you maybe elaborate? I read the one thread that got closed, before it was closed, and just stayed out of it, because i'm not up to date on everything. What was it about trying on the clothing that made you so...set on this. It's just, in my experience, there are normally (not to say everyone's the same) more signs of this (like in childhood) then just liking women's clothing. Have you ever thought about perhaps you are a cross dresser?

 

I did see a little of the last thread but I don't know the whole situation here. I may be wrong here, but I think that SWAGboy is just having a hard time with coming to terms with being transexual because this is all relatively new to the OP. I find this perfectly understandable because it has taken me about 18 months after starting to experience gender dysphoria to be able to accept the help I need (ie. a referral to gender specialist). This was because I couldn't accept I was trans as I hadn't known since childhood. There were no obvious clues, I didn't grow up wanting to be a boy and I would never have seen this coming. Though I've had these feelings for about 18 months now, I was always trying to push them away and convince myself it wasn't true, simply because I didn't want it to be. So I think it is completely understandable to feel unprepared for the gender therapy if you're not wholly ready to accept this change.

What kind of support are you looking for on here?

 

So SWAG, just so you are prepared, telling the doctor is the easy bit, the hard part is going to be explaining it. Obviously they need you to be sure so you need to be able to explain calmly to the doctor exactly how you feel and why, otherwise they won't do anything!

 

Did it begin after you started to come to terms with your sexual orientation?

 

Well just try not to rush your transition so fast hopefully youll be able to go to a gender therapist and work on accepting being transgender.

 

Your transition will go even worse if you start before you know you need it.

There are some advantages to starting young. Being able to prevent parts of puberty for example which will screw you over later, and the fact that you were able to do 'teen years' as a almost the right gender...not happily most likely, but still.

But either way the only reason to start when you are young is if you are damn well certain that it has to happen!

 

Ah, no, please don't listen to those types (they exist, unfortunately), and move at your own pace, since it's far more important to get where you need to be and when you need to be than rushing it, simply because someone else thinks they know what's best for you. There's a certain point in the process where it will be very difficult, if not downright impossible, to go back, and you'll be the one left to pick up the pieces if it turns out you made an error, not them.

Again, not all transgenders or transsexuals transition the same way. The point isn't to meet a set of requirements and meet others approval, but to feel comfortable as yourself, whether it means simply cross dressing in private, living as a woman full time, or anything in between.

You have an entire lifetime to figure it all out, so be patient with yourself and do what you must to get there.