How do I talk to her about seeing a therapist for my gender identity but how do I bring it up because I remember us talking because I was depressed and she suggested seeing a regualr therapist which im fine with as long as they are not transphobic but how do i bring it up to my mom because its been a couple months and she hasn't mentioned anything else about therapy and im still really depressed. Also im afraid if I go to a therapist and after time if im allowed to take hormones my mom might not let me since I think she holds on to the fact that i might just be a different kind of girl or something sine im effeminate with colors and stuff but she doesn't really get that I have major dysphoria with my body and I really want to start T so badly but I cant since im not seeing a therapist. :icon_sad: So any advise on how to ask to see a therapist.
Well, you could always tell her you'd like to speak to a doctor about it and see what they have to say. It might put the idea that you're totally serious into her head. Actually it might be a good idea to see an general therapist anyway, even thought you want something specific. If they are actually GOOD at their job they should recommend you go and see someone about it and would probably be willing to talk to your mum with you about it! Failing that, we can go the 'lets just tell mum' route. You've done the hardest part, telling her about it initially. Sit her down and tell her you need to ask her something important. Then just tell her you want to see a therapist. Yes I am fully aware that it's hard to do, but to be honest, from here on out it's something you have to be able to do, because at every step you are going to have to convince someone else that you actually need it to happen! If it helps, remind her she suggested you see a therapist and tell her that you'd like to see one that specialises in gender issues. Remind her it isn't ALL they do, they just know more about the issues you are facing than others and will be able to understand and help you more.
Start off by finding an LGBTQ friendly therapist, then work from there. Like ElliaOtaku said, gender therapist have better footing when it comes to issues that may deal with gender, but it's not all they do.
Yeah and you actually bringing it up yourself that you wanna see a therapist should help in showing your mum how important this is, and how seriously you're taking it. And hopefully in turn, she'll take you more seriously.
