Envious of other guys transition

It's hard to see others get what they need because they are simply in a better situation. I mean I think this can apply to a lot of things.

I get on tumblr sometimes and see before and after pics of transmen ounger than me, and it stings sorta. But I'm not interested in surgery, or HRT. I guess all I can say is some people have an advantage, seems unfair but it's the way it is. And I'm happy for them too, I hope they know how lucky they are.

 

Are we talking about like trans who get on T or E blockers before puberty?

 

The prime determinant of Gender is your mind. the rest is mere shaping of the flesh to match. Be as you need to and the rest gets easier- I've both been told and seen that.:>

 

Depends- some changes are affected by timings of hormones. And others not. Missing out on Menarche is a common wistful longing for some of us.

 

If you keep telling yourself that, then you will never be happy. It won't matter if you get on hormones. Hormones are not the cure all to everything. You have to look for the positives instead of the negatives. That may seem hard to do now, but it gets easier over time.

 

This is the question that I had to answer as well. As hard as it may seem, you will just have to let that go. Yeah, it sucks, but if people cannot really accept you for who you are, do you really want them in your life anyways? Take this as an opportunity to build a new family that will be accepting of you. Families are not always by blood.

 

Nobody said it was easy. But when it gets down to 'be who I am with people who love and accept me' and 'be who I am with people who think I'm a freak' the choice is fairly clear...

It's not immeasurably different to the decision to start transitioning in the first place. You can put it off forever and try and get through it as best you can, but the chances are eventually you will break.

Cat isn't saying "Hey, go flip your mum the bird right now then go find a new family to live with' he's saying invest your affections in the people who DO accept you for who you really are, because they are the people that matter. Blood doesn't mean a damn thing if all you get out of it is hate.

 

I'm not crazy. But sometimes there comes a point where you have to do what is better for yourself. Also, insulting the people that are trying to help you is not going to get you anywhere.

 

Essentially this. My mom doesn't want a son. She barely likes men. She flat told me that she doesn't understand it and refuses to understand it. I'm not going to hang around and deal with her phobic attitudes for the rest of my life. If she can put her big girl panties on, put her bias to the side, and play nice? Sure. I'll come visit.

 

No, I make it sound like a last resort. The bit I make sound easy is the bit where you focus on the people who love and accept you. I made it pretty clear, or at least I thought I did but apparently not, that ditching your blood relatives isn't easy, but when it boils down to it the decision is clear.

If you really get to that breaking point, and you've been there before because you're presenting to the world as a guy, it becomes obvious what you have to do. It doesn't make it easy, but the result is a better existence.

 

I did not say anywhere in my post that it was easy. In fact, I said that it was hard. Ellia didn't say that it was easy either. It is an option, that you could be forced into (if your mother disowns you) or you have to choose for your own mental health. It is a last resort.

 

Then that is a reality that you are going to have to face at some point or another. It sucks, but in the end you have to do what is best for you.