think I've fallen out of love with my wife

I cant imagine how hard that must be. It might be possible that youve fallen out of love for her, but could it be something else? Could you still be in love with her but just not satisfied with the way the relationship is right now? I dont know. I hope I didnt confuse you, I obviously need to shut up. But whatever happens, good luck!

 

Can you honestly say you're suprised?

If you consider the different things that make 'love' what it is, you're missing one of the most important parts. That part where the other person values you. You don't feel like you have that any more, because as far as it's possible to tell, she basically doesn't, or at least, not in the way that you need her to.

I don't know if you can get that back, perhaps you can...not that it will be easy, and it won't even necessarily be worth it (that is, from my outside perspective, but that may be significantly different to yours!). How can you be expected to love someone fully, in the sense you mean, when they don't love you. The real you, not the picture she has in her head?

 

Sounds like there is a lot going on here. U r both in a hard situation, yours with GOD her trying to accept you as a new person. My wife and I r sort in the same boat, she is very accepting of me and for this I curb some things until she is either ok with it or put on hold. This has happened over yrs. Because I love my wife there are I guess boundries that I said I would cross like srs, and some other things but maybe its just pressure u both r feeling . Don't rush things, look at how far u have come, remember she probably misses her husband, it takes time.

 

Just don't fall in to the trap of thinking that makes you a bad person or that you've failed in some way.

 

It is hard to love when the love is not being returned it seems. Does she love you? The person? Not the male or female but the intangibles that makes you you? Yes physical attraction does matter, I won't lie, but there has to be something beyond that. Did that up and disappear?

Fill me in on that.

P.S.

I like that you like yourself. That's the first place to start.

I feel kind of wise and stuff now.

 

Woo! I'm so glad to hear that!!!

 

Good to hear things are moving forward, and in a positive direction no less!

 

Nice Emma. All it takes is understanding.

So does she love you, gender aside basically? That seems to be the view from my perspective.

 

Aside from your relationship, I notice your attitude and orientation markers are changing.

 

Permit me to be slightly out of character for a moment:
" Says she can't see living apart, that it would tear her up inside." Woo! Fuck child support payments!

Goodness! Whatever came over me!

I'm glad she's accepting it, it won't make it easy but it's a much better place to be for both of you.

 

Hey, game recognize game as the saying goes.

I like your little homage to my status thing. Yes I am vain.