Confused__Crossdresser__Gender help__Advice

From what you said, it sounds like you enjoy cross dressing, but your low self esteem keeps you from trying on more clothing right?

I'm sorry about your family being in-accepting. My best advice would be to buy the clothes online or when without your family, and to secret them away into your room. If they catch you with women's clothes, just claim its for your online girlfriend that always works (right? I think so...)

I've worn the same pair of men's shoes and a man's hoodie for two weeks now, and nobody has noticed. Not even my parents. They all think its just a cute sweater I found while on a shopping trip with a friend. As much as you may think someone's noticing, they probably won't unless you point it out. I once shaved off my eyebrows for a bet, and nobody noticed at my physical therapy (and school) until I asked how it looked.

 

I started out like you, I was dressing up so to say, in my free time as a teen, I thought nothing of it, just a hobby, around your age the urges got stronger, and I started questioning myself.. but I repressed it for a few years as I went through relationship after relationship, finally it just busted I couldn't repress it anymore.. so I decided to come out ^^ thrift stores are a great place to start if you wish to explore more, and dont worry about shopping for female clothing.. if anyone asks, just say it's for your gf, a present or what not... it's what I used to do...

I hope I helped abit.. =3

 

Unfortunately I'm not. I'm not a very masculine person, I just know that I think I identify as a guy. I love Alexander McQueen, and I would die happy if I had a wardrobe of Burberry. I spend as much free time as possible surfing sites for male clothes, but I don't buy anything. I only own two truly male pieces of clothing, and everybody just assumes they're girls clothes, except for the friend who bought them with me. Even she doesn't know about all this; she just thinks I'm funky for letting her dress me in male clothes while we shop.

Every time my family inadvertently disses the kind of guy I want to be, I feel like I'm lying to myself because I don't say anything. When we went shopping, I convinced my friend to look in the men's section after asking what she would dress her crush up in. It sucks having to lie, but I'm just not ready to tell anyone. I even have a trans friend, but I won't tell her either. I think I might have reached Narnia, for all the hiding I've done in the closet.

Oh, and is your profile pic of you? I love your glasses! They look great on you! I could never pull those frames off, but my sister wears a style like that

 

Be who you are.

I'm male, and have no desire to transition but having a female appearance (not just clothing) is desirable to me while maintaining a male :smilewavementality. Sadly this is not feasible for me either, so I do go out as a female once in a while, but never in front of anyone I know.

However as far as dressing goes, no one cares what you wear... at least in my experience. I wear skinny jeans and wedges and mary janes all the time casually no one comments other than a few people interested. He'll I've had seemingly heteronormative men say those are cool as well as women. So have confidence... no one cares in the end.

As far as your gender issues is it beyond just clothes or do you want to look over all like a female or do you have a female mindset or what?

You at first seem like me, and not like you want to transition.

 

Oh god... I used to hate myself for those urges. But only around my mid to late 20s did I actually go out in androgynous clothing and only recently fully. I mean I love the female aesthetic and if I was a female biologically I'd definitely be a lesbian. I've only recently actually worn dresses out in public. Skirts and skinny jeans and stuff for a while now.

The thing is I prefer the "male mentality" and traditionally male activities. So that's where I stand.

If "passing" is something I can do then that's all I go for. If it were just a matter of appearance and it were socially acceptable I'd be having a female appearance all the time if I could. That doesn't mean though I dislike being male.

That make sense?

 

Actually... everyone has been very supportive of me coming out... My mother has waffled... but shes finally stabilized and become supportive for good...I haven't came out to my father yet... he scares me lol but my jobs support me... my sister-in-laws even want to take me shopping and have a ladies day out lol

 

Honestly, if I had the confidence to be myself, I would probably be an extraordinarily stereotypical flaming gay guy. In fact, I have no doubt of this. I think it is just a matter of me getting there one day.

As I said, I LOVE Burberry and Alexander McQueen. Louis Vuitton isn't terrible, but I think he makes some odd combinations. I really enjoy Forever21 Men and Rue21 as well. I was also recently introduced to a site called sammydress.com which seems to have promise too.

Faux glasses are not a bad thing! Sometimes I wish mine were faux; then they wouldn't be necessary. Do you have any favorite designers/brands?

 

It's soooooooo worth it though!! I have yet to really delve into Calvin Klein, but I have no problems indulging in their GORGEOUS models! Anyone else think it's gettin' a little hot in here? American Eagle is something I'll have to look into as well

The nice thing about Rue21 is their sales. I think it's amazing that they have a different sale every day! Have you gotten to smell their new perfume? Usually I stay away from perfumes and such, but dang their newest one is AMAZING!!!!! I was introduced to it by a cute assistant who fangirled with me

 

I've converted you!! Haha!!! I don't know the name of the fragrance, but it's a new spring line that's coming out and it smelled sooooo good! It's homemade by the CEO's wife too