Can guys and non-med FtM's be friends?

Anyone can be friends. Honestly. It can be difficult at times, yeah, but I'm good friends with both cis women and cis men without any of them finding me attractive! *re-gathers self-esteem* But anyway, enough of me goofing around. Maybe they do find you attractive, but by no means does that mean you can't be friends. Just chill. Carry on being a friend and hopefully it'll all work out.

 

Honestly, that's how most of my male friendships always end up. It's really frustrating, because I'm just like, "I just want to play video games and joke around." But usually if they say something, I tell them I just see them as a friend and depending on them, we either stay friends or we don't. They end up getting over the crush thing.

I guess if you trusted the guy, you could just straight up tell them, "Hey, I'm a guy. I've just got a female exterior." And if you ever ended up with one of them, if you're completely honest with them and let them know your gender beforehand, they shouldn't have a problem referring to you as their boyfriend. I mean, if they're willing to be with you and accept you as who you are, then they should be able to respect the fact that you're a guy and treat you as such.

That's just my two cents.

 

In my opinion anyone can be friends, no matter who (or what) they are. Have you ever heard of a pet rock friend?

Anyway, if you date in the future, it's best to let the other person know about your gender rather than they treat you how you'd prefer not to be treated, and they'll probably also be shocked to find out when you've been together for a while.
My relationships with friends...do not have a noticeable change in outcome whether the other person is a male or a female. I don't know which my gender is closer to, but yeah, I get mistaken for flirting sometimes because I do treat some things like a joke. I'll just say I'm not flirting, and it's left like that.

 

I've been there too :/. I'm totally pre everything and my best friend at college is a cis male. It didn't take long before I could tell he was into me, though he was under the impression I was a lesbian. He even asked me once, completely seriously, if I could ever consider being with a guy. I said never have and never will, which isn't true but discussion for another time . Anyways, we're really close friends we drive halfway across the country to school together, hangout all the time, there's drunk roughhousing, weekend rock climbing trips, we've even gone streaking together. Even though I'm pretty sure he knows that nothing is going to happen, at least not likely to happen, it's hard to tell to tell what's going on in his head. Anyways, your married so your friend must know that anything beyond friends is off limits (assuming your monogamous) but from some experience with some frank conversations with my friend that after a while I was just one of the guys to him. It also got easier once I told him I'm trans. Anyways, it is absolutely possible for trans* and cigs guys to be friends but honesty and being conscious of boundaries is part of it! at least for me. Not being out yet makes it a bit tricky but if he understands your just friends it should be fine.

 

I used to have a pet rock friend when I was younger, I actually had a whole collection at one point. Then my mom through them out. :lol:

 

I don't see why not, but most people don't think a "bio female" and a "bio male" can be friends for some reason. :/

And yeah I think he might like you...

 

Aww I'm sorry.
I thought you had a bf now? Or am thinking of someone else on here (not that you can't be with two boys at once, not judging)?

Would you like to get more involved with this friend, if he does see you as a guy? Or would you rather just be two dudes hanging out?

 

Anyone can be friends.

 

Congrats on being married!! :icon_bigg
Yeah take your time to figure things out.

 

Isn't that always the way?

All of my relationships seem to follow this pattern, which is frustrating sometimes. Thankfully, though, while all of my relationships seem to follow this pattern, the initial beginnings of the pattern do not necessarily always spark a relationship. I have several cis-male friends, one of whom I did date but didn't sleep with (I touched his junk once or twice but that was it). It's nice to have guys consider me one of the guys. It's definitely possible.

 

For what it's worth, my wife now considers me "the best girlfriend EVER!" had a girl friend at work invite me to get my nails done. My wife likes me being me, and the people (who matter) at work acknowledge me as, well, not really a guy, even with the exterior. I'm not really wild about being called "sir" whenever I go somewhere, especially while dressed considerably less "manly," but whatever. My kids call me "Daddy" but my wife (partner) calls me "Partner." I'd say anything is possible. That's my 2 cents ...

 

I firmly believe that a boy And a girl cannot be friends. There will always be romantic and/or sexual feelings involved.

 

Riiight. :rolle: What makes you think that?

and Jade and other guys who are trans are guys, hope you're not implyin' otherwise.

 

I didn't imply otherwise. I was just answering to the OP's first answer.

I think what I sai because of personal experience and life in general. ALso, most people (girls in the majority) who don't agree with me say "I have a lot of friends who are boys and see them strictly as friends. However, they have had crushes on me a few times.

I'm mainly referring to ciswomen and cismen

 

Oh okay. Sorry bout that.

Yeah but I really don't think that always true, you know? Cuz that may be your experience and what you've noted, but there are gonna be guys and girls (whether they're cis or trans)who are just friends and both see each other that way. Like, to say they can't be friends and there's always gonna be romantic/sexual feelings is a gross generalisation.

 

I have female friends and we do perfectly fine. It works so long as you don't see members of the opposite sex as 100% willing potential bed mates.

 

I call so much bullshit on this.

A gay man and a lesbian can be friends.

A gay man and a straight woman can be friends

A straight man and a lesbian can be friends.

That's not even including the asexuals.

Jade, men and non-op transmen can be friends. My best friend is a guy. Yeah, it's an online friendship, but he's essentially the big brother I never had. His favorite thing to do is buy me video games that we can co-op on lol.