How to deepen voice (no T) and other advice questions

Adam, I dont know how to deepen your voice without hormones but for your parents, I would just ask the most supportive parent to go shopping with you and casually slip a few sports bras into the cart..for the boxers, i would ask for them by saying that they are more comfy on your skin and also they cover more skin for your more free to walk around in underwear.....i would just do this all very casually, dont make a huge deal over it..be passive aggressive

 

Hey Adam,
So as for the voice-deepening, If you have a webcam or a camera, why not practice from that? Just keep saying the same phrase over and over in different pitches and see what works best for you. I don't know if this makes any sense, but try talking from deep in your throat. It'll sound like you have a cold at first, but if you keep practicing, it'll get better.

Secondly, as for the boxers, why not go to the store by yourself? Maybe get a bus to wal-mart or something, and pick up some stuff that you need. If your parents see them in the wash, just say you sleep in them because they're comfortable (which isn't a lie).

And don't get upset at your parents by using female pronouns. This is difficult for them, too. Have patience, and talk it out with them. Let them know how much it bothers you and maybe make some analogies that they could understand.

 

One thing that has helped me make my voice deeper is to focus more on projecting my voice and talking from my chest.

For your parents, that harder situation. Have you tried sitting them down and telling them how that makes you feel? I did that with my parents and they have been a lot better about my name and pronouns lately. They are not going to get it down overnight though, so, it's important to remember that it's a process.

As for sports bras and boxers, I would try telling your parents that you are more comfortable in those than in regular bras and women's underwear. You could always play the "lots of women wear boxers" card as well. That worked for me when my parents first saw that I was wearing boxers.

 

Yeah, definitely ask your brother if you feel comfortable with that.

As for the type of boxers, whatever you want. I prefer just loose, and you can generally get 2 pairs for like $10, if not cheaper. They aren't really expensive. You can also get tighter ones if you want, it's all up to you.

 

Voice deepening trick!! Look forward with your head straight and hum as low as you can, then tilt your head all the way back, BUT KEEP HUMMING AS LOW AS POSSIBLE! This stretches your vocal cords the way guys vocal cords form and deepens your voice. If you practice talking after doing this it works your voice muscles. Don't overwork your throat though, build up an endurance and be gentle. I did this while I was sick once, and I sounded like a legitimate man for an hour!!

 

This.

Also, for sports bras, you might consider getting into exercise, such as running. I started running when I was 14 and ended up getting a college scholarship!

How long have you been out to your parents? I've been out to mine for 10 months now and they still haven't even tried the pronouns once.. It's a lot for parents to work through and patience goes a long way. I know, it's hard. But you have to be strong while they deal with their feelings.

If I could go back to when I was 13, I would change things. First, I'd come out to them, which you've done. And next, I would keep the conversation going. Keep talking to them. I know that's hard too. Sometimes it takes a lot for me to bring up trans issues with my parents, but keep doing it. At your age, there's a chance you could get on hormone blockers which could save your body from going through some stuff that you don't want. I'm sure you already know that, but it's important to make sure that your parents know that and get them thinking long term instead of short term. I don't remind you of this to make you more frustrated that your parents haven't quite come around yet - I say it because you have a chance that many transpeeps would give anything for, and if it is what you want, it's worth pursuing that chance.