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Calling all Transgenders

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Calix, Apr 23, 2014.

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  1. Calix

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    I've joined the LGBT and Straight Alliance at my workplace. During May there's a week planned about human rights and equality - and one of those days is focused on LGBT. Being the only trans person in that group, I volunteered to come up with some flyers/leaflets. I've already found some good fact sheets of statistics for trans people.

    I'm working on a Dos and Don'ts list as we speak. But I figured I'd make a thread to ask for any suggestions you guys might have? I'm especially interested in something for people who are non-binary as I don't know a lot about it to be honest and it seems to be a huge unknown outside of LGBT groups.

    So yeah, wanna help me out? :slight_smile:
     
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    At my local pride center they have a flyer on "How to be a trans* ally". I can see if I can't upload it to photobucket for you and post it here if you want :slight_smile:
     
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    Please do! That'd be Awesome :grin:
     
    #3 Calix, Apr 23, 2014
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    Do: Treat us the same you would anyone else.
    Don't: Make a big deal out of it.

    Bam!
     
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    Yeah really it's just a matter of respect. There isn't really a do and don't list for how to be transgender friendly because everybody is different. If you've met one trans person, you've met one trans person.
     
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    x130 ^.^
     
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  8. Calix

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    Feels kind of dumb to post the list I've done, but oh well! Le'me know what you think xD

    DO's

    Use the pronouns we identify with and our chosen name.

    Treat us with the same respect you would anyone else - We're human too.

    Let us use the facilities associated with our gender identity - All we want to do is pee, same as anyone else.

    Educate yourself on transgenders rather than asking us for all the answers, we don't know all of them.

    Challenge gender assumptions and transphobic behavior.

    Think about the positive impacts the transition will have on the individual - not the negatives.

    DONT's

    Refer to a transgender person as 'it', '-he-she' or 'she-he' unless the indivdual has specifically asked to be referred to this way.

    Assume our sexuality - gender identity and sexuality are not linked.

    Put the chosen name or pronouns of a transgender person in quotation marks, you falsify their identity this way.

    Ask a transgender if they are pre or post op, or what operations they are planning to have.

    Ask about a transgender persons genitalia or sex lives in any situation where you would not ask a bio boy or girl.

    Assume that, because you cannot visually identify anyone in a room as transgender, there are no transgender people present.

    Question a transgender person's assessment of their identity or experience, or question a transgender person's assessment of whether an incident was transphobic: it is highly likely that they are much more practiced than you are in recognizing transphobia and its impact on their life.
     
    #8 Calix, Apr 23, 2014
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    I don't think dressing up as a member of the opposite sex, even to show support, gives off the right kind of message. It makes it seem like a sort of joke or that it's just a game of dress up.

    Probably irrelevant/ unimportant. Sorry.
     
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    Wait, has someone actually done that? :confused:
     
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    You beat me to it.

    Yes. I can't stay away from this forum. I need all the love and support I can get.
     
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    If this is a list you will show I think its best to instead of putting "transgenders" put transgender people instead just like you don't refer to black people as "blacks"
     
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    Good point, will edit it :slight_smile:
     
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    Not that I've witnessed but I remember reading someone suggesting it and it does seem innocent enough on the surface.
     
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    ((Hugs)) (if hugs are welcomed)

    Me, I think you're awesome, Kasey! :eusa_clap
     
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    (*hug*) Feel the love Kasey!
     
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    Willow I accept all denominations of hugs.

    In fact I'll be the hug collector.
     
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    (*hug*) Derailment by hugs :slight_smile:
     
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    You know how I do.

    (*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)
    (*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)
     
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