Okay so i got accepted into my local community college but ive run into some road blocks. I found out I got accepted yesterday for the fall semester but im living at home and my parents arent okay with me gender identity. That and my two of my exs mothers are going to the same campus and one js a friend of my mothers on fb and i dont know what to do. I want to live as a guy on campus but i dont have a blinder and a wear androgenous clothes but my chest is small and usually a sports bra or two will work for me to flatten me enough but gettingnout of the house like that is my problem. Luckily I turn 18 in a few days but my id card for campus will say my birth name and I dont know how to contact my professors about the issue when my mother is going wih me to orientation. Do you have any suggestions? Im dating someone who knows im trans and hes okay wih it but he'll be in high school and he treats me like a girl so how am i to adjust to all of this and be who i am while still living at home? Most of my day will be spent ln campus. Do you have any suggestions? My mom thinks im a lesbian so should i play the butch lesbian card for a while? J Help please. This is my first year in collee. I am out somewhat at current school.
Can you email your professors and tell them the situation in advance? You would be able to ask them to use your preferred name and treat you as male once the term has started but to avoid it during orientation because your mother will be there. As for the clothes, go with it, if you can swing dressing like a dude by pretending to be a butch lesbian for your mothers sake then do it just to get you out of the house!
lots of colleges and universities are becoming a lot more lax with changing your gender and name on your id card. try talking to one of the counsellors at your college (probably before your classes start) and see if they can send you to someone who can change it on your id. or, search around your school's website (if they have one) to see if you can find the student services centre or whatever they call it, and try emailing or phoning someone from there. definitely email your professors beforehand though, just to make sure they address you properly. good luck, friend :icon_bigg
Let's tackle each one, shall we? 1) Re: presentation - If you can't leave the house without your mother seeing you, you need to find somewhere to change ASAP. This could even be in a semi-secluded area of the campus. It shouldn't be that hard to do as I've snuck an entire suit onto campus with me before. 2) Professors - First, contact your school's Multicultural/ Student Affairs/ LGBTQ office and tell them your situation as they may have specific recommendations. Then, ask to copy their director on your emails to the professors stating your preferred name and gender - this should limit any potential for backlash or non-compliance 3) ID card - you'll get yours at orientation and you're going to "lose it." Ask for a letter from the aforementioned director explaining your situation; you can likely get a new ID card with your preferred name (if not, these things are rarely used so, don't stress too much) 4) The boyfriend thing isn't cool. If he treats you like a girl then he doesn't respect your identity. I'm sorry to be harsh but either he has to get on board or be kicked to the curb. And now, I wouldn't try to play the butch card...