I noticed a lot of people lately are wondering if it's ok to wear certain things because of their gender. An FTM can wear whatever he wants, just like a cismale can wear whatever he wants. An MTF can wear whatever she wants, just like a cisfemale can wear whatever she wants. At the end of the day, nothing has inherent gender. Things are just things and can be enjoyed by anybody. Society adds gender constraints to things, but that doesn't mean the things themselves are really gendered. If you like it and you're comfortable wearing the thing, wear the thing. If you're worried about how people percieve your gender, maybe you're not as comfortable wearing the thing, and I understand that. Obviously if you're pre-everything, you won't pass as well if you're wearing certain things. Socially, cis people like to make other cis people fit into the little boxes of their genders, and they like to make trans people try extra hard to fit into the little boxes of their genders, and seem to find deviations as "proof" that we're not "real men" or "real women", which is absolutely bs and I think we all know it. But that doesn't mean you have to sacrifice the thing because you're x-gender now, and it wasn't "made for you"! I have things that I like that I'm not presently comfortable wearing because they're girly and will draw that sort of attention from people, but when I'm passing full time and ideally post-top-surgery, I'll pull them out because why shouldn't I? They're my things and I like them. If you are comfortable wearing the thing then by all means, wear the thing, even if it's just while you're at home or something because that's what you're comfortable doing. We shouldn't let society's bs restrict us from being ourselves and we shouldn't let objects give us an identity crisis. Anyway that's just my two cents. (*hug*)
That's great!! Basically I know it but sometimes I think would that look good or not? Can I wear that? Would that look too boyish? Or to girly (rare case)? But yea, you're absolutely right!! It is not important what you wear! It is not important what others think bout this!!! Just so stupid to think this!!!
Sorry, but I have to disagree. My mom use this sentence as a excuse to make me wear feminine clothes. For her, also a guy can wear lipsticks, use feminine deodorants and perfumes... "But you can wear whatever you want!!!!" "But I am a man, mom...." It's annoying :dry:
Yeah, my mother use to do that, too... :dry: But it is different when it's what we choose for ourselves. :icon_wink
Agreed. We as trans people have just as much of a right to wear whatever we want, or use whatever products (i.e. cologne, perfume), regardless of gender stereotyping/marketing as cisgender folks do. Simply because I like wearing feminine clothing, or accessories, doesn't mean I'm not male. If only certain others could comprehend that...
Exactly. A guy CAN do those things, but if you're not the sort of guy that WANTS to, then there's no reason you should. ---------- Post added 4th May 2014 at 03:21 AM ---------- Yes exactly. I'm not really big on accessories, but I like some feminine clothes. Doesn't mean I'm not male.
My mum uses that as an excuse too. 'Men can wear make up and jewellery so why can't you!' I'm just not that type of guy but yeah if you want to wear a make up or jewellery or even a dress while still being male, why shouldn't you. Good point.
