Am I being too sensitive? I want to be able to pass it off, to not notice or care, but I get this horrible feeling that people are talking about someone else.
No I get this all the time. I haven't got up the courage to ask my family to call me by my new name yet and use male pronouns. I just know there will be fireworks and I'm not trying to pass as male just yet so I'm not ready to challenge anyone. It does feel like everyone is talking about someone else when they call me her or she or my birth name and although it grates in my ears, because I'm not ready to correct them yet, I just grin and bear it/
I don't think you're being too sensitive. Could you ask people to call you different pronouns? Not necessarily male ones, there's a list of gender neutral pronouns here: Gender Neutral Pronoun Blog | or The Search for a Polite Specific Gender-Neutral Third-Person Singular Pronoun
Nah. Dude. You're fine. I'm at the point where only family uses female pronouns on a regular basis. Feels really weird and alien, always takes me a minute before I realize they mean me. I mean, you're uncomfortable with it and it's not something you can necessarily control your comfort too. Misgendering feels invalidating. Because they're not referring to you- they're referring to the person they perceive you as. So it's not always intentional. And one day, hopefully you'll be able to correct and make it known what you prefer. Even then people will mess up and often times not intentionally but that's how you know who supports you. Whoever's willing to learn.
My parents have been a bit better with using my preferred name. But pronouns haven't changed yet. It's very surreal for me to go from work where I am totally out and get the correct name/pronouns, to then go to my parents house where they get my name right half the time.
You're not being too sensitive. I'm not out yet, except to my therapist, one friend, and my boyfriend. So nearly everyone calls me "she," "girl," etc. And it is REALLY annoying. It makes me want to scream at them, say that they should be calling me a man instead. The whole thing sucks.
