I wanted to know, what happened if you transitioned from male to female or female to male after having had kids? Like before they called you mommy or daddy, but after? Do they still call you the same so it's not confusing? Or did you ask them to change? My kids call me as they always called me but it gives my "birth gender" away and it bothers me. But my kids are 10, 8 ans 5. Would it be confusing to ask them to call me something else? I'm agender... how could they call me anyway? :/
Do they know that you are genderless? It might be confusing for them but you should never underestimate children's abilities to take in things adults struggle with. My sisters (8 and 10) for example, understood what I was telling them and had the whole 'sister' thing nailed in less than a week. I think they've messed up and called me my birth name maybe 5 times between them since I told them, otherwise it's been Holly all the way. I find children seem to be happier to try things like that, even if they don't fully appreciate WHY. What would you want them to call you?
:icon_wink I was thinking of suggesting "Esteemed Parent" to my 17yo, but I suspect I'm going to have to settle for whatever she decides is appropriate.
They do know I'm genderless... But the "mommy/daddy" terms are kinda "strong" in signification.. I love when my son calls me like this, but not in public.... And I have no idea how they could call me, that's why I was asking, for those with kids. I'm native french and this language is way over-gendered =.=
Calling you by your name comes to mind. My wife most of the time insists on calling her parents by their names rather than any parental 'title', not for lack of a good relationship with them, just as a matter of fact way of addressing them I suppose.
Brave? what for? Adia : I find this to... impersonal being called by my name by my kids I wonder how the other agenders deal with this...
Transitioning requires bravery in and of itself, but to face it while having young kids I think is even more so.
borrowing something from another language might work? like taking a gender neutral pronoun from another language, and then they can just call you that. a fair number of my friends call their parents things from other languages, and not necessarily the language they speak at home, or words that mean "mother" or "father". but maybe that is a cultural thing, i don't know. most of them were born in other countries :lol: otherwise, nicknames are good. i call my dad "captain" 80% of the time. we used to play pirates a lot when i was a kid and it just kind of stuck :lol: maybe there is something like that for you and your kids?
At dinner tonight, I (half-) jokingly made the "Esteemed Parent" suggestion. It was not well-received. But of course, I'm not out (yet) to my daughter, so she has no reason to think there's any need to call me anything other than "Dad." Baby steps, baby steps ...
I could asked them to call me "Ruler of all that's evil" but that's a bit too long :eusa_eh: XD I'm kidding I'll check for a neutral word in other languages..
