I cant do it anymore :'(

Have you explained to her about transgender people are? I'm guessing you have but figured I'd double-check. Maybe next time say that while she does not believe, can she get you to a gender specialist who can look into it? She may have a harder time denying it when a professional has confirmed it.

I know it sounds stupid to need someone else to confirm. You know exactly what you are. I went through this with my parents. Until a doc confirmed I was trans, they wouldn't believe it and use my preferred name/pronouns.

 

Little exercise for you.

Try and isolate your feelings at the moment. Notice how helpless you feel because nobody believes you. Notice how conflicted you feel because you know who you are inside but it doesn't match outside. Notice the pain that causes you.

Take note of all the emotions, all the thoughts, all the feelings that come up when you think about your gender.

Notice them, feel them.

Now get rid of them. Discard them. Ignore them. DESTROY THEM.

You can't do it, can you?

You can't just wish away these thoughts and feelings because they are part of you. They are deep inside your head and they affect you in ways you can't imagine let alone understand.

But your family can. They've not experienced them. They don't know these feelings. They don't know how the affect you or why. They do not and cannot appreciate the intensity of each and every thought.

They don't have the benefit of seeing inside your head and experiencing what it's like to live inside your body.

All they have is you and your words. If you say to me that you're a girl, I'll believe you, because I've been there. I have my own feelings and experiences to back that up. I know what that's like. But to your mum, who hasn't been through this you might as well say you're a dragon or a spoon and Overlord of the Moon!

She can understand things you want. She'll understand the idea of feeling different. Feeling like you want to be something that you can't be. We've all aspired to be something and found out it would never happen. But that's as far as she can get on her own.

You need to give them your experiences, your feelings, and you need to give them completely. Some people will accept it without comment, I tend to find those are the people who realise that nothing they have to say will change what is happening, but it doesn't necessarily mean they accept it is right or normal. You need to share what is inside, not just state things that are obvious to you!

It's hard work, it really is, and if you need help with it you know where I am.(*hug*)

 

Try to find a PFLAG or some other LGBT pamphlet on transgender people and give it to them, it sounds to me like they don't understand what trans people are. Try really explaining how much it hurts when they call you a boy and try to explain your feelings to them and how important it is for you. I hope it works out (*hug*)

 

I'm so sorry hun! (*hug*)

I would try what Calix said.