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worried about going to a trans* support group

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by darkcomesoon, Jun 4, 2014.

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  1. darkcomesoon

    darkcomesoon
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    Location:
    New Jersey
    Gender:
    Male (trans*)
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Bisexual
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    A local teen health clinic has been hosting a lgbtq group for teens that I've been going to for about half a year now, and I've really liked it. I'm completely out as a "lesbian" so I wasn't really worried about going to the group (plus, it's for lgbtq teens and allies, so it wouldn't have been a problem even if I wasn't out). Now they're making a group for trans / gender nonconforming people, and I really want to go, but I'm kinda scared. The the group is for trans* people, not trans* people and their allies, so I'm not sure I would be able to go without outing myself to my parents, and I'm definitely not willing to do that. I have a couple friends who would be going, so I would have to out myself to them too, but I could probably be okay doing that. I'm not quite sure how to go about telling them. I came out as liking girls, but somehow this feels very different. Still, I'm mostly just worried about my parents.

    So these are my questions: If I decide to go, what do I tell my parents so they won't suspect anything? How do you work up the courage to come out to the first person you tell about your gender?
     
    #1 darkcomesoon, Jun 4, 2014
  2. stormborn

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    you could say that you are just questioning? that's how i got into therapy without outing myself to my mom.

    when i came out to the first people (besides the therapist), i was very... calculated. i planned the exact time and place and what i would say. of course, i blanked as soon as it came time to actually tell them, but since they were actually there in front of me, i kinda had to tell them (or so i reasoned to myself).
    i think if you say "hey, i have something i want to talk to you about, let's talk at [time and place]" it'll help keep you determined to come out maybe?
     
    #2 stormborn, Jun 4, 2014
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