Finding Your Name

Hi, man. I know what you mean.

Unisex name rocks!

How do I find my name? I tried to call me with other names, but I understood that my name had to reflect my personality.

One day I listened to this song: Robin Thicke - Blurred Lines ft. T.I., Pharrell and I noticed Thicke's name.

"Uhm, it seems so familiar! And it's also unisex!" I though.

Fuck off, go for it! :roflmao:

This name is simple, unisex, straightforward but at the same time strong and brave (cit. Robin Hood).

I didn't find my name. He found me

 

Uhm, I don't remember very well but it took 4-5 months. Why so much time? Because I chose a name and I tried to see me with this name for a while. And then I changed it...and again, and again. Until I joined EC and I decided to try to make me call as "Robin".

"Now, I can stop to search" I thought after one months on EC (I'm here for 7 months).

Do the same. But make the others call you in the name you've chosen only after you're pretty sure that this name could be the one.

 

What about something a bit foreign? Maybe from where your grandparent came from? Or from some culture you're interested in? So it's gender won't be immediately obvious?
Or go celebrity. Apple Nightshade. Yeah, that's the one. :}

 

Alex is my name, hehe. I chose it because of it's meaning, because it seemed to suit me, and because I felt my family would adapt to it well.

 

I have friends named Arin with that spelling both sexes. Nat is the only N name but they were Natalie and Nathaniel.

I know a 70 yr old Irish dude named Ashley that likes whiskey in his coffee, but girls have taken that over. Could go by Ash if you wanted.

 

maybe Avery? once there was both a girl and a boy in one of my classes named Avery :lol:

otherwise there's:
Aron
Addison
Ainsley
Arden
Noel
Nikita
Nico
or you could take after kayne west's kid and use North :lol:

 

oh sorry, i misinterpreted
i am currently between two names because i want input from my family.
i came across something similar to what i want to change my first name to (Brighton) on a baby names site, and i thought it was cool and sounded good so it's kind of stuck.
i'm going to change my middle name to Elliot, and i might go by that if my family wants me to keep my birth first name (which is unisex, but my spelling is more feminine, i think). i just like it, and i always have. i also really like the youtuber Elliot Morgan, so maybe that affected my thinking a bit :lol:

i guess i don't really have good reasons for picking my names... i just like them. i told my friend about the name Brighton, and she said she liked it. one of my other friends says i'd make a terrible Elliot, but that it was a good name, so i think i have at least a bit of a blessing from her :lol:

 

I had actually sort of developed a second life online as Kelsey 2 or 3 years before I ever came out. I was actually starting to feel awkward when my family called me my then current name. So by the time I came out it felt so natural because I was already so used to people calling me Kelsey.

 

I know you said you aren't necessarily looking for suggestions, but I had always seen the name Aiden as a boy's name. Then comes my math teacher and his daughter is named Aidan. Either spelling works either way and I really like the name.

As for me, I can't change my name at all yet (Shawna Lorraine, purely feminine) but when I do, I chose my 2 favorite guys' names and polled people on which order they think it would sound better so my name will be Christopher Adam. And it feels right. Look for what feels right to you.

 

I'm not trans* so I haven't had to choose a name for myself but when I'm looking for names for characters in my stories, I think of the names and middle names of friends, family, celebrities, and even other fictional characters. Sometimes I make names up, but I prefer real ones.
Also you could just listen to music, like someone else posted! Maybe an artist name or a song title will stick out to you. Or maybe a name will just pop into your head randomly and you'll go "yep, that's the one!"

 

I was really picky with mine. I too have an overly feminine name that even worse has a very feminine pronunciation I loathe and people use it all the time. I correct them on the pronunciation, but the name still grates on me anyway.

Basically my strategy was going totally opposite of my birth name. I wanted a hard consonant - K. I wanted a short name that was to the point and maybe a little sharp. Kane is what I would use if not for the wrestler But Kyle is what I chose. Kevin and Jason were also on my list but in the end I decided they sounded too long. Despite all three names having two syllables, Kyle is usually said with a quicker pace.

You say that you want a name that fits you. Maybe you could start by making a list of things that make you "you" and working backwards towards names with those meanings. I'm sure there are a lot of unisex name sites with origins/meanings that would come in helpful

 

it's good to have a name lined up for when you decide to socially transition but don't pressure yourself! names take time.