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how to subtly bring up gender in conversation.

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by stormborn, Jul 3, 2014.

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  1. stormborn

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    so i don't really pass too well either way, and there have been a few instances where i've had a long conversation with someone and after, they ask me my gender. i'm not bothered by it, but i want to put these poor, confused people out of their misery :lol:

    i'm wondering if anyone has any tips on how to subtly gender myself in a conversation, in situations such as getting a hair cut, chatting with receptionists, talking to some one on the bus, and so on.
     
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    yeah that's a tough question! I have the same problem (well I haven't in awhile but I think I confuse strangers still)

    I used to claim i was in boy scouts and slip that into conversation whenever I got haircuts so they wouldn't make my hair too feminine. That's really the only suggestion I have?? Pretend you were part of some male-exclusive organization, I don't know.
     
    #2 birdking, Jul 4, 2014
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    Assert your maleness in conversations. For instance: "As a man," Talk about a product or activity you engage in that embodies masculinity. Act like the average guy would with your mannerisms. Talk in a deeper voice.
     
    #3 PlantSoul, Jul 4, 2014
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    ah, that might work because i'm actually in girl guides :lol: though boy scouts here has changed to including girls, so that might not work, but it's definitely a good idea! thanks!

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    i'm working on lowering my voice (it's a long and srduous process :lol: ) but those sound like good tips! thanks!
     
    #4 stormborn, Jul 4, 2014
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    Start using more gendered expressions, like "I'm the kind of guy that X" Or "As a man I would like Y".
     
    #5 Wuggums47, Jul 4, 2014
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    You're welcome. I hope they work for you. :thumbsup:
     
    #6 PlantSoul, Jul 6, 2014
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