In need of support/ adviceTrying to come to terms with being genderqueer.

Its great that you've started to accept yourself Genderqueer is a bit more difficult for people to understand as most people only think of gender as a binary. That being said, most cities no matter how small have at least some sort of lgbtq scene, you just have to know where to look. Granted im from the US but even the town I grew up in had some safer lgbtq spaces and its in rural New Hampshire. Finding other trans folks to talk with helps a LOT with accepting your identity and once your confident in it im sure you'll find a way to safely come out. Moving out definitely helps Do you know what pronouns you prefer?

 

Ah, so you've began your Gender journey~
Genderqueer is like the catch-all, umbrella term for all the non-binary identities that people can identify with. I myself identify as Genderfluid and I generally use gender neutral pronouns (they, them) or masculine pronouns since I align with masculinity more.

I would urge you to being making a support system for yourself and finding a lgtbqia group is always the best way to start. Connect, and talk with people along with your own research and you'll soon get the answers you're looking for.

 

Hello
I started Identifying as Genderqueer because I felt masculine some days and feminine on other days and presented as such, but now I know I'm a binary transgender boy after having constant masculine days and constant dysphoria over my female body.

The best thing I can suggest is just experiment! Seriously, go online in forums presenting female, get people to use female pronouns, it's okay to experiment, change your gender and pronouns until you find an identity that fits you, if you ever need to talk you can message me whenever, good luck

 

Great advice, i agree with itsAli here!
I remember sending an email as Jane Langley, my female name for myself, it felt great!
Start off small and progress until you feel comfortable!
We're always here for you x

 

I'd also second attempting to look for a support group, whether it's online or offline, though, with a group in-person, it's nice having a safe space to start experimenting with your appearance/presentation and be yourself without having to worry about judgment.

I also wanted to address that I relate with you entirely when it comes to feeling a bit uneasy about my gender, especially around other (young) guys. I think a lot of non-binary folks are bound to feel out of place every once in a while, considering we live in quite a binary world, and I sometimes feel pressured to stay within the binary for the sake of my simplicity, likewise my own safety. It is better when you live in a much more varied, diverse area, though, certainly. Especially when you run into other androgynous folks, it's easier to not feel like the sore thumb or as out of place.

Very glad to hear though that you've supportive friends, and baby steps are the way to go Just take things at a comfortable pace, and do what feels right to you.

 

Thank you! (*hug*) Well, the way I went about was checking in my local newspaper and plus, I heard about and was given information about places that were safe for kids (I later learned, also a safe place for non-binary peeps) in school (when I was still in high school). After that I checked online, usually there might be facebook groups (if you're on facebook) but I haven't really looked up on an actual site. I'm sorry if this doesn't help. :icon_sad:

Are there any local youth organisations nearby? There could be a gender support group within it and they usually have an email, phone number to reach them or you could pop by there main HQ.

 

Good luck with everything! :smilewave