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Came out to my mom

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by NingyoBroken, Aug 18, 2014.

  1. NingyoBroken

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    Hey guys, long time. Thought I'd share a little update.

    Not sure if you remember me, but ages ago I posted a thing saying I attempted to come out to my mom by first mentioning binding, and she freaked out.

    Well, today my dysphoria was worse than ever. So bad it was driving me insane.
    So she was very concerned about how I was acting lately, that I snapped really easily and seemed always preoccupied, and asked me what's wrong. After some time of "I'm okay. No, really. Just fine.", I finally told her everything.

    And....



    She is supportive! She says I should have told her sooner.
    I'm very relieved. Now I have someone to talk to about it who is always there every day.
    I'll get her to explain to my dad (saves me the trouble).


    Anyways lately I've been dressing a lot more masculine and passing a bit more (as an emo kid, haha).

    I hope to be able to buy a legit binder now that my mother is aware of my gender identity and is supportive.
     
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    Well done!
     
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    that's wonderful!!!! i'm so happy for you :slight_smile:
     
  4. Acm

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    Congratulations, I'm glad it went well :slight_smile:
     
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    Brilliant that she was so accepting :slight_smile: She sounds like a great mom.
     
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    Congrats. Hope it keeps getting better from here on.
     
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    That is awesome! I am glad that she is supportive of you!
     
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    That's awesome! I'm happy for you :slight_smile:
     
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    That's awesome! (!) Glad to hear that you have such a supportive mother :slight_smile:.
     
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    Sweet! Good on you for having the courage :grin:
     
  11. NingyoBroken

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    Yeah, it's a huge relief. Big difference from when I told her I was binding, and she said "what are you a fucking lesbian?", and started her feminist rants about how I should appreciate my "beautiful female body".

    Ahaha...

    Next is my dad. I actually thought it'd be the other way around, but when I told my mom to tell him for me (easy way out), she said he might be less understanding.

    Maybe that's true, although I enjoy the occasional talk about stuff mom doesn't care about, mostly cars, video games etc (I'm a little geeky under my goth exterior haha), now that I have been hanging out with him more lately, I can see although there has been much change to my appearance and mannerisms, he still sees me as a girl, and misgenders me constantly in public ("my little girl" is the worst. Holy shit.)

    So yeah. But I think the hardest part is over. I'm not worried about anything in the slightest now, I don't have to be as secretive. Let's just see what happens.
     
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    Faantastic, glad she's supportive and that you have someone.:thumbsup:
     
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    Happy for you ^_^
    Best of luck x
     
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    That's awesome! I've been playing out all the likely scenarios with my mom too. Little scared.
     
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    That's great!