To the people posting, asking if others would sleep with a transgender person.

This. <3

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I usually report the threads but they really piss me off too.

 

Bless your heart. <3

 

Oh my gosh. Why would anyone say that? I'm not transgender, but I'm thinking about it. It really breaks my heart how rude people can be. I know people who have been treated like that. They're very good people. PEOPLE! People don't deserve to be treated that way! Nobody does! What if a dude walks up to a gay guy and says "I'll sleep with you just because you're gay". That would hurt someones' feelings, wouldn't it? God, I can't believe how fucked up society is, all thanks to bullies.

 

I believe our best interests are not being looked out for.

 

Let me chime in here and say that the staff are trying to look out for everybody's interests. There are 2 points that I am going to bring up here. The first is that we are a staff of volunteers, so sometimes it may take some time for us to see reports and act on them. This does not mean that they are any less serious, it just means that at the time there was not anybody that could handle the issue.

My second point is that this is a support and advice forum. It may not be these people's intent to offend us. We live in a world where many people are unaware of transgender issues, and that is something to keep in mind as well.

At this point, I am asking that all further concerns are spoken in ask the staff.

 

I completely agree with you Ali. I think you did everything right.

 

I appreciate your pro-active attitude on this issue, Ali. I'd also like to thank the staff for their work and diligence in the community.

 

I'm glad you wrote this, I've seen too many people get away with saying transphobic things

 

for me, i would date a person for who is in front of me, we all have pasts that we try to and have moved beyond.(&&&)

 

Frankly the question of whether a person was a murderer in the past or some comparable crime would be a deal-breaker. This is just an interesting datum about a person, letting you learn more about them and probably understand/love them more.

 

I think any 'would you date....?' is going to rile up feelings, especially on an LGBT forum.

 

I have not seen the offensive posts in question, but could it be possible that some folks here have caused hurt or offense out of ignorance, rather than with intent? We all have a lot to learn about each other. Having been told, however, folks ought to educate themselves about the issues involved, then they won't say things that could cause hurt or offense, because they will know better.

Anyway I did not see the 'would you sleep with' topic but like all such topics, it sounds a bit crass; but even so I suspect that whoever posted it, might have just been ignorant, or careless, rather than ill-intentioned. But my empathy goes out to all of you who are trans and who might have read such an awful topic, because trying to put myself in your shoes, I can see how it would be hurtful and offensive.

 

The problem with that statement is that the posters claim "they are knowledgeable of transgender issues".

It's deleted now but the whole "I don't mean to offend, so let's talk rationally" or what not usually means "I'm going to offend you".

Not understanding a trans female IS female (or trans male is male) is one thing, but saying "I only like trans males" is fetishizing a group of people. That's the problem.

 

https://encyclopediadramatica.es/Dubious_Disclaimer

 

So... how is that offensive? I really want to know because I asked that question in the past and I don't see the problem. But clearly, there is one and I'm being offensive without knowing it so if you could educate me on that subject, I would be thankful.

Also, is saying you won't date a trans* because of his/hers genitalia offensive? The argument I heard was that since that person is attracted to boobs (she is a lesbian), she wouldn't have "anything to play with" during "fun times". I don't exactly share that opinion but I'm using that thread to ask the question anyways.

 

This opinion could change but... It seems like people are essentially trying to find ways to weasel out of admitting, in terms of what they find desirable, a certain shallowness. If a person, regardless of their comportment, internal character and external appearance, cannot be a <identity> if they were not always that <identity> to you then that seems shallow to me. Am I crazy for thinking that?