Hey guys, since I came out last year (I'm 19 btw) I've been struggeling with a problem that's hardest for me to tackle. It's about behaving around other people, I'm talking about humour in this case. I don't know which humour I should set to 'my humour'. I'm an intern, so I'm around about 10 heterosexuals 5 days a week, 9 hours a day. They have a kinda different humour than most homosexuals I know. But I'm also around LGBT people every week for a couple of hours. I just don't know which humour is 'mine' anymore. Should I be the kinda gay, annoying childish guy I am to some of my friends? Should I copy heterosexual humour (which is a bit macho and a lot of making fun of others in a hetero way)? Or should I just copy the persons' humour I'm talking with and clone it as good as possible? Since I came out 'my humour' doesn't really exist anymore. I try to adapt to other people's humour a lot. You guys got experience with this? Any tips, help? I know I should try to find my own way, but it's kinda hard to act your way when you think other people expect something different. Greetings from a town at the northern border of the dutch bible belt!
Don't do what feels forced. Roll with whatever you find funny. Only say funny/witty things if they are funny to you.
I made awful dad jokes before I came out, I certainly won't stop now. But I think what you're struggling with is fitting into straight culture as a gay guy among coworkers. I think generally nobody will care what jokes you make/what you act like as long as you are being genuine. Do you put on a front when you're among your gay friends?
