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What heck is going on with my gender?! (What am I?!)

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by PlantSoul, Sep 29, 2014.

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  1. PlantSoul

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    I find myself questioning my gender yet again. I was quite certain for awhile that I was a transgendered male, but now I am no longer sure.

    I started to question my gender again earlier this month. However, it was only yesterday that I realized that I might not actually be trans.

    I thought that I was an androgynous male, mainly because I realized that being masculine isn't me. I kept having to ask myself if I could truly be happy with having a penis and being on testosterone. I realized that I wouldn't be happy with either. Having a penis would make me miserable. Taking high testosterone and having my appearance be masculine and my voice deep, wouldn't make me happy either.

    I've been doing a lot of soul searching and I don't feel male. I definitely know that I am not a female. I feel androgynous. Like I am existing right between female and male. If I could get my female genitalia removed and be rendered genderless, I don't think that I would particularly mind. In fact, it would make more sense, since I am not getting any use out of what I have.
     
    #1 PlantSoul, Sep 29, 2014
  2. Starfleet

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    Hi. I know it's confusing. I'm learning so many things about myself now. :slight_smile: It sounds though, like you are in a good place, and that you know what you really are. I'd say, trust your feelings *and* give yourself time. Does that make sense? Like - be good to yourself, support yourself like you would support your best friend that had similar questions.

    All the best. :slight_smile:
     
    #2 Starfleet, Sep 29, 2014
  3. jay777

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    Maybe you're an androgyne or agender?
     
    #4 Acm, Sep 29, 2014
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    I´m kind of the same, actually.
    I used to say that I am a woman.
    I also used to say that I am a transman.
    Now I feel like not saying anything at all.

    Maybe it helps if you don´t think of "what kind of male/female things do I want to have?" but "what would fit me as a person?" Maybe you like your breasts, but think that a deep vioce would fit you. What I want to say is, when you can´t see yourself in the binary gender system, just make your body fit your soul. Name your own gender, if you like! :wink:
    I used to say I´m pangendered, for instance. I don´t think that that exists, but it felt right for me.

    If you feel like you don´t fit in anywhere, just make some room for you yourself :wink:
     
    #5 Mejj, Sep 29, 2014
  6. PlantSoul

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    I think Androgyne may be it. Thank you. :slight_smile:

    ---------- Post added 29th Sep 2014 at 08:15 PM ----------
    Thanks. I have come to realize that stressing about these things gets me nowhere. From now on, I'm going to go with what feels right. (!)

    ---------- Post added 29th Sep 2014 at 08:17 PM ----------
    I will. Thanks.
     
    #6 PlantSoul, Sep 29, 2014
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