Hope this fits here. I am new, so if it doesn't, just point me in the right direction. Let me just start off with this: I am not trans. I know that. I have a friend who is, and I don't feel like that is me. Sometimes I feel like a guy, and I like it, but when I think about having a penis, I definitely don't want that. I know that there is a gender binary, However, I do have issues with this being a girl all the time thing. I am very curvy, and my breasts are a significant problem for me. I like dressing nice: skinny jeans or leggings, a button down shirt that is usually buttoned all the way up, and maybe a blazer. I have become more partial to ties recently as well. I like the female side of me, but I feel like it is not always me, and I feel much more comfortable in skinnies and a button up that really fits me well. But I can't wear button ups because of my breasts. They are constantly busting open to reveal my bra. I just wish they were smaller so that I can dress more androgynously. The idea of one day being able to wear a tux or a suitcoat with tails makes me so happy. But the way my body works, this could never really happen. In the words of one of my friends back home: "You're trying to be all androgynous, but you really can't, cause you are too curvy." I can't wear button down shirts, I can't wear suit coats, I can't wear suspenders. All three things that I want to wear... Also, being in New York has been so nice for my wearing new things, but I definitely don't want to think about going home and my friends giving me weird looks when I wear a tie. :icon_redf :help: *sigh*
Hi! I do not know if I am as curvy as you, but I am rather...unfortunately female-bodied. 36-27-34 measurements....:$ I have found that binding, and wearing bigger shirts helps. And try for men's skinny jeans instead - they tend to make your hips/behind less noticable. Also, exercise is always a thing to consider. Building muscle helps a lot, and it makes me, personally, noticeably less...feminine, and more lean. Just something to keep in mind. As for the weird looks - well, doesn't everyone want to rock a tie?
Get a size larger than what you usually wear. Instead of a tie, try a bow-tie. Wear men's pants. If your curviness is still noticeable in Men's skinny jeans and it bothers you, try another cut like, slim-fit or straight.
Sounds like you're non-binary, or transmasculine. Look into safe binders, such as underworks. Long ones also work to slim down hips.
