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A question for the non-binary folks...

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Nightdream, Nov 23, 2014.

  1. Nightdream

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    If I meet someone that is openly neither man nor woman, how should I call them? Should I use neutral pronouns or just use their names istead? Would you feel offended if I asked how you preffer to be called?
     
  2. Ryujin

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    When you first find out, it's probably best to find out preferred pronouns but else just use 'they' for pronouns etc..
     
  3. gravechild

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    Your best choice is to ask. Some prefer they/them/their, or ze/zir/zem/; others are indifferent to pronouns altogether, or have varying preferences, depending on mood, presentation, etc.
     
  4. darkcomesoon

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    Definitely ask. I love when people ask me because that means they care enough to try to get it right. Using they/them until you know is usually a safe bet, or you can just avoid using pronouns and use their name instead.
     
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    Just ask! Personally I don't have a pref when it comes to pronouns but many do so just ask, it shows you really care. :slight_smile:
     
  6. I am Kakashi

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    I'd just ask :slight_smile: But until then, they/them is probably best.
     
  7. Manta

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    It's fine to ask. Something like "I'm sorry, I didn't catch your preferred pronouns" would be an honest and polite way to bring it up.
     
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    Exactly. Definitely ask for the pronouns, most won't mind.
     
  9. PeculiarChild

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    What would you call a significant other (other than significant other)? Personfriend? Tried-and-true "partner"?
     
  10. JustJJx

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    Just ask, it will hopefully avoid any mis-gendering :slight_smile:
    I prefer my name to be honest ^_^