I'm having a small problem expressing my gender

One thing that helped me before I started on T was to pad my figure with undershirts. This helped hide my curvy figure, but it really sucked if it was hot outside that day. Also, this site may help you out some as well.

 

No problem! I hope some others are able to help you more than I can

 

For me, personally, I've started wearing looser clothing so my shape is less obvious. In addition I've gotten a more gender neutral haircut and started wearing glasses (I don't need them but they give my face a more manly shape). Really though it's all about playing around and seeing what you think makes you look most like you feel on the inside.

 

I'm slender, but I have wide hips and large breasts, so I'm not entirely certain if my advice will help. But, on underworks, they sell binders for your chest, but also compression shorts which will lower the curvaceousness of your hips to achieve a more masculine waist. I suggest you get both of these things because they will help, and wear a shirt a size up to cover the rest of the curves that aren't concealed.

A lot of masculine leaning people tend to avoid this, but have you considered using makeup? You can use it to give your cheekbones and such definition to make your face look more masculine. I have a very babyish face too and contouring helps a lot.

 

You might think about nutrition... eating more whole grain, cereals, and avoiding high sugar drinks and too much salt, which helps with retention of water in the body...
maybe even more vegetarian, and with fruits... an apple for example consists mostly of water.

You might think about doing regular exercises you like... walking, swimming, biking... not overdoing it, just a few times a week, and having fun meanwhile...

there are a lot of clothing choices... reducer bras... sports bras...
http://emptyclosets.com/forum/gender-identity-expression/159635-breast-binder.html?highlight=binding
playing with different clothing colours and styles...


(*hug*)

 

What a friend... *scowl*

I know some people who pass better when their faces are fuller because it disguises bone structure differences, if that makes sense. Try to find a hair dresser who will work with you/who understands your needs. It's not always about how defined your cheekbones are.

Just find a look that works for you. I'm somewhat curvy and I find dark colors and layering really helps. I almost always have either a buttondown or a hoodie or a sweater thrown over a t-shirt. Graphic tees in dark colors are great.

Don't listen to your party pooper friend. Do what makes you feel comfortable.
(*hug*)

 

I find this a little strange too. The skeletal differences between average male and average female is very slight and cheekbones are generally more noticeable on females. Males tend to have sharper cheekbones though, but they're generally not as noticeable.

 

Totally! Glad I'm not alone on this. If anything I might associate prominent cheekbones with feminine faces... anyways I don't want this to get into a discussion about "passing" or looking more masculine/feminine. I just meant to point out that OP's friend's comment might be a form of fat shaming which has nothing to do with reality and made OP feel bad unnecessarily.