Parents and Haircuts

You could just talk to her... that its not your style and it makes you unhappy.
And that you want to try this out.
Maybe she would also like someone who is a bit more outgoing and active, this hairstyle would give the impression.
Besides, the long hairs are impractical... something along those lines...

On a sidenote, you might try a ponytail . Binding them back might relieve disphoria.


(*hug*)

 

Tell her that during the summer it makes your head hot (mine does) or is impractical for any work you do. Maybe you could use an 'it's in fashion' method?

 

I'm sorry about that. I was stuck in that situation for a half-year before I could take action a few days ago, so I completely understand. Are you out to her and didn't pick a gendered haircut so that she won't link it to you being transgender? Or are you still in the closet from her and don't want her asking questions?

I would ask her why she won't let you cut your hair. Since I was having this problem only weeks ago, I talked to my gender therapist about it. She said I should stand up to my mom, as my mom has been the commanding force in my life. You can do this, too. Depending on the reason she doesn't want it cut (my mom had the silly reason of "wanting it to attract boys," though I was out to her already so her reasons were way more complicated than that), you could tell her that you're 18, a legal adult, and you want to get a simple haircut. It's not permanent and it can grow back if desired. Remind her of all this.

Or, if you can drive by yourself legally, go get one by yourself. What's she gonna do, staple it back on?

 

St. Baldrick's Day. Two birds with one stone.

Or she might be thinking about how much it costs to get a short haircut maintained. You could get clippers and do it yourself. That's what I do and it's not too hard. You could even find a guy friend who does his to do it for you.

 

Shave your hair as a form of protest.

 

I'm in a strict buzz-cut hair routine at the moment, so I definitely know how you feel.. (except backwards of course)

I'm of the same mind as Tai though.. You're 18. Honestly even if she doesn't like you with short hair what can she possibly do about it?

 

Its true, you are 18. You could just go and get it cut and ride out the storm. You should be able to feel comfortable. I had the opposite problem for a while- I was growing mine out and my mother wanted me to cut it. I don't think she meant that short though. I have met a couple of people who really want to cut it and don't know why their mothers won't let them. If you can find out her reasoning, then you can always find arguments against it. If you are persistent enough, she should eventually get fed up and let you do it, or else her reasoning will break down. Good luck.

 

A good reason to cut your hair could be to possibly donate it to cancer for the making of wigs (if it's long enough)? That's what I'm doing, and not only is it for a good cause, it's also a pretty good excuse to get your hair cut short, your mom might back off if she at least knew it was going somewhere. I mean, why not give your hair to someone who'd enjoy it more than you would?

If you google 'Donating Hair to Cancer' theres usually a website that pops up for whatever non-profit is in your area. I know pantene does it. There's usually an 8 inch minimum requirement for hair length but I know a friend who was able to donate it for less.

 

as porter mentioned, bring up donating it!! that's what I did to get mine cut short, and she was all for me donating it to a good cause and then when the stylist was doing it after they took the hair I just told her how I wanted it... not how my mom wanted it. at this point its grown out to where my mom wanted it and its only been a few weeks, hair grows really fast. best of luck!! (*hug*)

 

Youre 18 idk what your income is ill assume its a college bursey or jsa or something. Save up your $ and jyst go get it cut to what you want. You shouldnt have to ask if you can have yiur hair cut at that age. My parents are controlling but that is really pushing itba lil bit. Youre an adult you can do what you like with your hair.

and as others saif you can donate it and shave the rest off or something.

 

I cut my hair myself one morning, without asking anybody. Sometimes we need to set boundaries between us and the parents. For some stuff, especially when you're 18, you don't need permission.

 

If you think you've got the guts, I would say just cut it off yourself. When she walks in and sees how bad your homemade haircut is, she'll be forced to fix it into an acceptable style.

And I completely understand the "What if people think you're a lesbian" thing. Before I came out, my mom wouldn't let me cut my hair short because apparently my wardrobe "already made me look like a lesbian". What I ended up doing was I asked if I can cut my hair to my shoulders, but then when we arrived at the salon I discreetly told the stylist to make it super short.

Basically, just cut it off then ride out the ensuing storm. From what it sounds like I don't think your mother will be fuming mad about it, she just seems worried about other people making fun of you or something.