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Genderfluid or occasional crossdresser?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by ForNarnia, Jan 24, 2015.

  1. ForNarnia

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    Hey, so as some of you know, I've posted stuff about this before, but basically, here's my dilemma;-

    • Some days, I like to dress like a girl, and some days, I like to dress like a guy. I'd say I wear men's clothes/masculine clothing about 90% of the time, but I often leave my hair down.
    • About 60% of the time, I don't really feel like a guy or a girl, I just feel like a person.
    • About 21% of the time, I feel like a guy.
    • About 19% of the time, I feel like a girl.
    • I hate being called a girl or a woman, but I only use female pronouns and am not comfortable using others.

    I cannot tell if I'm just an FtM crossdresser who defies gender 'norms', or if I'm actually genderfluid. So, yeah, what do you guys think?
    Thanks for reading :slight_smile:
     
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    You say you feel like a girl sometimes, a guy sometimes, and just a person other times, so I would say you are probably genderfluid, and primarily agender, androgyne, or something like that.

    Clothes don't define your gender, so I'm just focusing on what the last four bullets tell me about how you define your own gender.
     
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    Do you feel uncomfortable being female?
     
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    yes and no its really hard to explain
     
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    Sounds a lot like me. There's a distinctive chance that you're genderfluid. Also, you can be genderfluid and still go by gendered pronouns. I prefer to go by they/them, but I'm fine with she/her when I feel like more of a girl, he/him when I feel like more of a guy.
     
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    you might be genderqueer
     
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    Yes and no. While I dislike being thought of as a woman, most of the time, there are times when I like it. I also feel that my body is pretty well suited to how I feel inside most of the time, because I am quite masculine for a girl and have some more masculine features such as broad shoulders. I have no desire to transition because of this :slight_smile:

    ---------- Post added 25th Jan 2015 at 01:22 AM ----------

    Thanks for all the replies :slight_smile: I'm still in the midstages of figuring this out, and they're very helpful.
    Is it possible for someone who is genderfluid etc to prefer to identify as their birth gender? (I forgot to ask in my first post)
     
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    That is totally valid. As long as you at times identify as other genders, you can totally be genderfluid regardless of what gender you have a preference for.