So I am pretty sure I'm genderqueer, and I'm not sure how or when I'm going to come out, but I feel like I should have a name for myself before I do. I looked through lists of boy/unisex names and I narrowed it down to a very short list. I'm hoping I can get some opinions. My birth name is Robyn which I guess is kind of unisex on it's own, but I feel like it is also tied to my being "female", so I want a change. So the list is as follows: Aiden Avery Quin Raven Rylan Taegan And then there's always the 'easier' path of using one of my middle names; Drew. Thanks in advance
I really like Aiden, Rylan and Taegan. And Quin (for me spelled Quinn) of course because I have it as one of my chosen middle names. To me you really look like an Aiden or Rylan though. Good luck!
I'm hesitant to say Aiden because it's... a very common trans name, to be honest. There also aren't very many Aidens in our generation :/ They're out there but it's mostly the newer gen. Just something to keep in mind. I really love the name Avery, Rylan seems nice too.
I like Avery and Drew. Aiden is nice, but like Ronin said, it's a pretty common trans name. It is a nice name though, so it's not a bad thing if you want to use it. It's more common in babies/toddlers right now than adults, so maybe it's recent trendyness is why it's so popular among trans people. Sometimes I worry that my name is too common of a trans name, but it's not the end of the world if you pick a common name. I feel like Aiden is more of a masculine name than unisex, but if that's fine with you then go ahead.
Aww. I've liked the name Aiden for a really long time, and I've always liked it because it's so unique. But I guess if its not so unique anymore I will probably not be using it. I haven't decided yet, but thanks for all your opinions. Another question though; does anyone else feel like changing their name is somehow disrespecting their mother? I feel so guilty for wanting to change my name.
You could say it was right then... but you have changed, and would like to try another to refelect that a bit more...
Nah, but then again I don't really care. I do what I want, if I want to change my name, I do it. My needs come first. Also, if you like the name, who cares how many people are using it? I used to go by Aki before I settled on Masaya. Aki being the most "trans" name ever in Japan. So many FTMs and Genderqueers use it it's unbelievable.
Yeah, I'm too scared to tell my mom what my chosen name was, just because I know she's really attached to my birth name. I still feel really guilty about it. But I feel guilty about being trans in general.
Nope. My birth name was stupid too. I feel no guilt at all. I was nice and made sure my name started with a B though, since all the kids in my family were named alphabetically.
My vote goes for Quin(n). I hope you find the name that calls to your heart sooner rather than later. ♥ My mother has passed on so I don't know if my opinion counts, but no, I don't think changing names is disrespectful. IMO, your name should properly reflect who you truly are. If you feel like your birth name doesn't represent you, then change it.
