How to convince my parents to let me go femme?

Depending on your parent's convictions, you might be able to convince them by showing them evidence that it's not a choice and not an illness. Perhaps, if they're willing to listen, you might be able to direct them to various medical and scientific journals on the subject. That's the best I can do, hope it helps!

 

First off, I'm sorry that your parents found out that way. My parents saw my pronouns changed on Facebook too and I got into some trouble, but I was already out to them.

Unfortunately, you may have to wait until you move out or go to college to be able to get away from their disapproval. At school, I have weight lifting first period and then I shower at the end, making it so that I just wear my clothes I wore to bed, to school. Then put on my day clothes after the shower. This makes it so that my mom can't see what I'm going to wear that day before I leave for school, she only sees what I wore to bed. So maybe you could do something similar? (Just change at school in the bathroom at the beginning of the day, if you don't have some kind of physical exercise class.) I could only see this as a problem if one of your parents is a teacher at your school. My dad is, but I can usually get away with wearing what I want in front of my dad.

Have you asked to talk to them and try to clear things up? Have you asked why you can't express yourself and explore with different kinds of clothing?

 

I am not much help to you in terms of what you can do to make your parents allow you to do something. I just want to say that I noticed you're 17. Do you have future plans for moving away? My friend was seeing someone who was in a bit of mess but found ways to express themselves when they could. For example, around their parents when they went home they dressed as their parents wished, but around friends and in the city they lived in they dressed the way they wanted to.

Just hold on as tight as you can, there is an emergence of the transgender movement JUST beginning to take off. You will have a lot of opportunity in the future to finally express who you are, and this website will be one of your starting points

 

Maybe try sitting them down with some inspirational videos about transgendered women or news articals or just sit them down and tell them u r transgender and nothing will change that, no forcing you to wear clothing u hate will change u and that if they contenue to hold u back from ur life u will have to move on and out to forget them. Thats what i would do if i wasnt 13

 

Dear Ash, ( CyberStar ) :


I know just what you mean when you say that your parents just won't let you be the person that you want to be, My mom certainly doesn't understand, and has even TAKEN all of my feminine clothes and makeup away from me several times. Thank goodness I have friends who know of my love for being a woman, and have replaced my clothing and makeup. But it still hurts that my Mom and sister, ( my brother knows that I'm a trans-gender-ed woman, but he won't even acknowledge my existence anymore ). My dad is not even part of my life anymore, ( alcoholism ). won't recognize the fact that I am a pre-op trans-gender-ed woman named Jayme. I used to have the cutest pair of pink leggings with lacy ankle cuffs, but when my sister saw these, she took them outside and burned them.

I hate being a boy with a FUCKING passion, I should have never been born a male.
I look too damn good in women's clothes. I, too, hate looking in a mirror and seeing a damned guy, Do you know how hard it is to pee with almost NO dick I can't wait to have surgical castration, and a vagina replacing my former crotch. I AM A WOMAN
I just keep telling myself over and over, I have reached the conclusion that I just don't care anymore if my mom and sister don't want to recognize me as Jayme.


If your family ever DOES finally recognize you for the beautiful ASH, please let me know how this goes.

Jaymegurl