So lately I keep flip flopping on wanting to get on Testosterone and could use some help just figuring out where I stand with myself. I know I want top surgery one day but just want to be happy as the real me. I identify as a Trans Man but have noticed since coming to terms with my authentic self I am more okay with my feminine side as well as my masculine. Just could use some support, I guess.
maybe give yourself some time to figure it out. in the mean time try to experiment on being female/male, the answer comes by itself
Humans, regardless of gender, have masculine and feminine sides. That you are a man doesn't mean you need to walk around like your avatar, there is no need to prove anything to anyone. And if you think there is a need, you've got a free ticket to the land of insecurities. There is better places to spend your holidays.
Thank you. I just have felt like I need to blend into society and forgot about being an individual and just being me.
Masculine to the left, Feminine to the right, stuck in the middle of these two. I agree with everyone else: go with how you feel. I'd also like to point out that being feminine doesn't make you any less of a man, trans or cis.
I identify as Trans*male, but I don't plan on taking testosterone. That's because my interests for my future and my goals in life would be affected by it. I want to be a singer and T would most likely make my voice drop and all the work I've done in my life so far would be for not. So, what I'm saying is, look ahead and think about what affect T could have on your life and what you want to do. Hope it helps, feel free to talk to me anytime if you'd like! ^.^
OH MY GOD I AM IN THE SAME BOAT AS YOU CapQuestionmark! I worry so much about how T would effect my opera voice.
Wow, we should really get to know each other more! This is such a great coincidence! But yes, please consider that before you do anything to your body. As far as I have things planned, I will try and get bottom surgery if I can (at least get my female internal organs removed) and just bind and not do T. I'll most likely need my breasts for doing female roles, considering the fact that opera is usually very traditional and the women are pretty stereotypical. And I already mentioned why I won't do T. I hope to get top surgery in the future, and I will try my hardest to not let my body get in the way of my relationship with my future man. Besides, if he can't accept me for who I am instead of judging me by the skin I'm in, he's not "Mr. Right"...
*Giant Bear Hugs* I have a singing range from soprano 1 down to low tenor naturally due to all the training I have had vocally as well as I love Broadway . I follow CN Lester a trans* man that got top surgery and does opera stuff in the UK as well as makes his own music and is a voice coach. You might like his work.
Same here, hun! I hope to be in Opera more than on Broadway, though. I just looked them up since you mentioned that, and, oh my god, they're so pretty! I'd say I'd want to be like them someday, but I don't think I'm even going to risk it with T...but that's just me. I'll have to give their music a listen when I can find the time!
