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Non-binary folk, what pronoun(s) do you prefer?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by C P, Mar 28, 2015.

  1. C P

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    I ask this out of curiosity because many, if not most, binary people tend to be offended/irked, or at the very least feel the need to correct someone, if they are misgendered.

    Do any of you other NBs have a preference as well? Or do you kinda find it irrelevant/don't care what is used for you?

    As of now, I'd say that I fall more in line with the second thing, but I feel over time that I have gotten a bit more interested in 'they/them' personally, but can't say for sure what will be a long term thing. Hmm...
     
  2. randomly me

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    I prefer they/them
     
  3. I'm_Danni_x

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    I'm currently still deciding between they/them and ze/hir pronouns. I feel more happier when I'm associated with ze/hir pronouns (if that even makes sense).
     
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    I'm mostly pronounced he/his but that is because i look very masculine but if someone pronounces me she/her i don't mind either. it's not a thing for me.
    In my case it's also hard because i try to look neutral most of the time
     
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    I prefer they/them but don't care much.
     
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    I tell people to use they/them. There are times when he/his is ideal and times when she/her is best, but at all times they/them is good, so that's what I prefer to go by.

    I'm not a fan of any "invented" gender neutral words/titles tbh.
     
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    I don't care what I'm referred to as, the only thing I don't like are the things people assume about me when being referred to as a "he" or "she." I prefer "they" in the context of stereotypes, but if there weren't any then I wouldn't care which pronoun you'd use at all. I say use whatever pronoun you want for me as long as there are no preconceived notions. And if anyone's curious, the reason why I say that I'm biologically male in my gender info is to give some perspective on any situation I might have when I post on the forums for help.
     
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    I like he/him or they/them. Don't care too much between those two, but definitely don't like she/her. I guess stuff like ze/hir would be fine too, but it's not something I would ask people to use, and it's not something people tend to use without being specifically asked.
     
  9. MindvsHeart

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    I really prefer gender neutral pronouns (They/Them) but masculine pronouns are okay too.
     
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    They/Them are cool, He/Him work too :slight_smile:
     
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    I personally like ze/zir.
     
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    I'm a big fan of the ze/hir/hirs set. It's probably going to be quite some time before people recognize it, but I guess my duty is to push for it.
     
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    I am only ever okay with "it" but I don't tell many people that IRL because I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable (about 80% of the people I've ever told have been uncomfortable with it, and these are all people I am very close to). Getting called "he" in isolated incidents is nice because it means I'm not being perceived as female, but if people start using any binary pronoun consistently, it makes me dysphoric. I also hate when people avoid pronouns completely because I find it dehumanizing (which is ironic because people find my pronouns dehumanizing). It's kind of a lose-lose situation. Oh well haha
     
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    I'm AFAB, so I usually go by "she" because it keeps things uncomplicated. When I'm actively presenting as male, I prefer "he." When I'm feeling more agender or bigender, either works.

    At the end of the day though, I'm a conformist ... they/zie/hir/etc all seems otherizing to me and makes me feel uncomfortable. I'd rather just use the existing label that seems closest.