My parents just won't use my female name and pronouns even when I have explicitly told them when I am wearing my necklace I am in "girl mode". We went for a walk earlier and they were constantly referring to me as he and I just got so mad. I don't know what to do - I've told them to use these pronouns and otherwise they are really accepting but they just don't seem to make any effort at all.:bang:
I sympathize. I don't really plan to tell my parents, but not having your identity respected sucks really hard. I have a friend who refuses to acknowledge that I want her to respect me as a woman, and honestly I am a bit resentful about that, especially since she expects me to always make sure I'm not treading on any ground she doesn't like. She is a good friend otherwise, but I refuse to talk gender or gender politics with her. Anything I can do to help par?
It's difficult for a parent to adjust, and though it seems like they aren't making an effort, they might not be mentally ready to accept the facts yet. You stay with a child through their entire life, and then very suddenly (to them) you're not what they have seen for however many years old you are. On top of that, a lot of parents have a lot of problems accepting and understanding gender identities in flux, or non-binary genders. So it's not a matter of them being supportive, in this case. It's just coming to terms with what's going on. My mother is very supportive of me, but she still doesn't understand exactly why I want what I want, nor does she find it easy to deviate from what she has referred to me as for 20 years. That's okay. You have to understand that this is as much of an ordeal for your parents as it is for you. Gingerly edit their usage, and they'll get better. If they blatantly ignore your corrections, have a sit down and try to talk to them about it. Find out why they don't want to respect your pronouns.
Thank you both I find it hard to correct them...I don't know why but I just can't bring myself to actually say to them they're using the wrong pronouns.
I dont plan on telling my dad. Im sure my mom would have understood it though. But she was a hippy from the day and loved the LGBT community. You definitely have my sympathies.
They're probably having both a hard time adjusting and understanding your gender identity. Are there any videos or articles about being Bi-gender that you could show them for educational purposes?