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Is anyone else avoiding gender procedures?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by PlantSoul, May 30, 2015.

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  1. PlantSoul

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    Around the time I turned 18, the subject of going to a gynaecologist and getting annual pap smears and breasts checks was brought up, much to my chagrin. Since then, the subject is brought up to me, at least once a year, and I always forget.

    I really don't have any intention of (ever) going through with this. Besides, as pissed off and offended as I get when this subject gets brought up, can you just imagine how I'd be if actually decided to go through with this?
     
    #1 PlantSoul, May 30, 2015
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    I avoid them like the plague.
    I had a pap smear when I was 13 and it was the most awful experience in my life. I just remember feeling awkward and crying and not talking for a whole day. Everyone said I was being a baby about it.
    My doctor said I could wait to get one till I was 21 since I wasn't sexually active, but I never went to have it done. I really don't want to. I rather have a finger up the butt than the shit Arab have.
     
    #2 Matto_Corvo, May 31, 2015
  3. Acm

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    I'm never going to have one. I know you're supposed to for health reasons or whatever, but I can't. The last time I went to a (regular) doctor they peeked down my pants for like a second and it made my dysphoria skyrocket, I came close to a panic attack later because of it. I don't think I'd be able to have one of those.
     
    #3 Acm, May 31, 2015
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    I'm too much of an anxious rule follower to actually avoid going to the gynecologist (though I refused to be the one to suggest it, so I haven't technically been yet :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:), but I certainly would if I could. I get dysphoric over how often it's referred to as "women's health" stuff; god knows how I would survive an actual exam.
     
    #4 darkcomesoon, May 31, 2015
  5. matiasz94

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    Hi, Fem Studies major here lol. Yeah this is a problem in the trans* community. Trans/non-binary health should be the top priority, but it is difficult to face. I hate anything where I have to check boxes or am asked about my cycle and don't see myself going to a gyno anytime soon. Idk why small changes like wording can't happen in order to make people feel more included and less terrible about taking care of themselves.
     
    #5 matiasz94, Jun 1, 2015
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    I literally just wrote a post freaking out about a "female exam." Wow.

    Yeah I get sick just thinking about it. Frankly, I never intend on getting any sort of in-depth exam down there unless my life depends on it. Dysphoria just goes WAY UP. Not to mention I'm already insanely private - nobody's seen me naked since I was a toddler.

    The one time a doctor just "peeked" I almost threw up I was so nervous. That was 4 years ago, and the last time I went to the doctor. In fact, they said I had high blood pressure that day (which is no doubt because I was having a freaking panic attack the whole time). Seriously, though, every time a "physical" is mentioned I start hyperventilating just because of that one part. If I ever had to go to a gyno I would die. I'm just not doing it. Don't care. Not doing it. Never, ever, ever. Did I say never?
     
    #6 Kodo, Jun 1, 2015
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