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How would you go about telling your mother you wish to wear a binder?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by MidnightStar, Jun 22, 2015.

  1. MidnightStar

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    I been thinking about this today, and I wasn't planning on doing it but I figured maybe I could take a look into it and explore the possibility with someone who knows more about them so I can get a better understanding then decide. But to do this I would have to come out to my mother because there isn't anyway of hiding something like this, eventually it would be known. And if I tell her how would I go about telling her and explaining?
    I don't wish for them to see it as trans sense I'm genderfluid. I also am wishing to know if I talk to her about the binder itself and my feelings, would it help if I told her i'm genderfluid? I'm worried because if I don't have to I don't want to go into details about the issue, and I don't want to talk about being genderfluid.

    It's a simple question with not much to it but i'm asking for a little advice sense not sure how to bring up yes mother some day's I hate my boobs I can't see that being a very calming conversation.
     
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    It might help to talk to her about it in a less certain way, as if you're having weird gender feelings and you'd like a binder so you can figure your feelings out. If you think that would get more detailed than you want it to, or your mom would react badly, maybe try a different approach.

    You could always say you like the way you look in certain clothes when your boobs are de-emphasized. Just, like-- "Mom, I want to get this compression thing, because I like the way it looks and sports bras just aren't doing it for me." Maybe make it sound like a fashion whim--so she won't necessarily be concerned or suspicious. If you go through a company that also sells regular compression bras (like underworks or something), it might be easier to pass off as weird new trendy shape wear.
     
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    If you felt comfortable telling her you're questioning your gender, that could be easier than explaining that you're genderfluid. It might be less pressure and wouldn't require as much explanation or a formal coming out.

    Otherwise, just say you like how it looks, you like how it makes your clothes look or how it makes them fit you. If you have a large chest, tell her you don't like having such a big chest and you want to wear a binder sometimes so you don't have to deal with it.