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is a ftm allowed to celebrate father's day?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by yaoicore, Jun 28, 2015.

  1. yaoicore

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    I was wondering this ftm's if you ever though about having kids, would you celebrate mother's day or Father's day or both?

    I was just wondering that some times I have though about having kids I kind a wonder to myself what will I be to them.

    and can a ftm celebrate mother/father day?

    I feel like if I was to tell them that I'm their dad I'd be lying to them I feel the same for if I was to celebrate father's day I'd just be lying to myself :frowning2:
    can anyone pretty please help me out on understanding this?
     
  2. siriuslypadfoot

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    You aren't lying to them about being their father. You would be their father.

    It's up to you on what you want to celebrate.
     
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    thanks for letting me know that, if I had a little one, I feel like a part of me would want for them to call me dad and the other part is saying I'm lying

    I sure know that I don't want to celebrate mother's day I just want to hear this happy father's day and not mother's day this is one of my fears
     
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    FtM is male. Fathers are men. You would be a father. Therefore, it'd be Father's Day =)
     
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    Yes to Father's Day. It may be confusing to some people, but who cares? We're men, we're dads, we should have Father's Day. The only person I don't want it to confuse is my kid, so I want to transition long before I have any; that way I'll always be their dad and hearing it everyday would be, for me, the thing I need to remember that I'm valid as a father, I guess. Maybe. We'll see when/if kids ever happen.
     
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    If you haven't had any, yes, you'll be their father :slight_smile:

    If you came out and started transitioning after having kids, and had previously lived as a woman, I'd say it would be up to you whether your kids started celebrating fathers day with you, or celebrated mothers day since you would have been a mother to them previously and they'd want to thank you for that.

    But if you've got no kids yet, then you'll be their dad when you do have them :slight_smile: They'll only ever know you as their father. And if my dad was trans ftm, he'd still be my dad, just like if I found out my mother had been male once, she'd still be my mother! You're a male :slight_smile: