Hello! Is there anyone who shifted their gender expression to a more masculine one from femme, while not transitioning FtM? Anyone who became masculine of centre, butch, tomboy, androgynous (female- or genderqueer-identified)? I figured it does the job for me (I id as a genderqueer female). And I guess the role of a feminine woman was what bugged me somehow, not being female in itself. I'm in the process of becoming and wonder if I'm alone in it. ---------- Post added 4th Jul 2015 at 10:57 AM ---------- Or were you always more tomboys than girly or neither of the two?
Hi. I'm discovering, and I really like your question! I have never thought of myself as a girlie-girl, or a tomboy.It's been a sense of definite "masculinity" and attraction to a male role, although in spite of my body type, I also identify as quite feminine. It's been very confusing for me through much of my life. At the point now where I am really peaceful and happy with accepting my reality, whatever It's called. I think my comfort zone is more towards my masculine self, and that's when I feel most honest and genuine. But I still connect with, and value my female self, ...wow...I have trouble expressing this....sure wish I could sit down for a real life discussion with others going through this....but this forum is the next best thing! I hope some of that makes sense?
Yes, it'd be very nice to meet IRL someone who has a similar situation and talk about it. Thank God, there at least such forums in the web. I'd think I went insane if not for the web.
I can assure you you're not alone. I am also a genderqueer female. I'm typically feminine but I have a strong masculine side that will need to be expressed at times, the urge is undeniable. I was always a Tom boy growing up and even though I dress up, wear makeup, and act feminine now, I feel lithe Tom boy has always been there and grew and evolved with my feminine identity. In other words the two coexist for me. However if I express myself as feminine for too long my masculine side becomes restless and forces itself out of me. I think I would ultimately prefer a more androgynous look for myself to better express my masculine side equally. However I do not have gender dysphoria and I have no desire to transition as transsexuals do to a male gender.
Well, I wasn't a tomboy. I didn't even know the concept. I ran a lot, climbed trees, shouted, fought with other children, played with frogs, worms, bugs... But there were plenty of girls lile me, and we played together and identified as very girly. I liked nice stuff too, like beads, bows, little animals, drawing... I dressed up quite much, liked dancing and music (I still do). I had a surface of a balerina and thought tomboys are just rough and don't like pretty thigs Just my interior was more adventure-directed. Then puberty came and norms changed a lot. Then a more masculine identity started making sense, because I don't seem to fit in with many feminine norms and am uncomfortable receiving treatment as though I mirrored them. Presenting more masculine changes something at least + typically feminine clothes are often uncomfortable (in the practical sense).