Hey everyone! So for the last few weeks, out of nowhere I have been questioning my gender. I am born a male and I am gay. Now, these thoughts came out of nowhere, I turned 18 just under a month ago and that is around the time this started. I have been on/off depressed since I was about 13 because I never fit in and had no social circle. This changed in the past year as I started to go to college but I still continued to feel very low in mood. I wonder if this is because deep down I actually knew I was a girl and that I was suffering from dysphoria...? Growing up, I always wanted to dress in female princess costumes but I never had the confidence to act on it or say anything. I always used to play with dolls and sing girly songs and was very feminine from a young age... I always want to try on and wear girls clothing and use handbags but again I never have the confidence to act on it. I also don't like my body and I always feel slightly ashamed of it. I get easily jealous of women I see in public or in magazines wishing I had their clothing/body, I sometimes even get jealous of my friends!!!! I just have this picture of a beautiful woman that I want to be but I'm not sure if this is actually trans or gender fluid. I just really want to know what I am... Am I transgender or is this something else entirely? Sorry for the really long post. Thanks everyone. I'm just so confused.
Hey boo I felt the same before I transitioned. I was depressed since early adolescence, harbored jealously towards females (that was misinterpreted as overwhelming attraction for many years) and desperately wanted to do anything and everything to become a female once I discovered that was the root. Things people like/d are not a good judgment of gender, as these things are social construct. The questions you should be asking yourself are: - How do I feel about my male form? Being male in general? Do I like it? - Do I prefer female pronouns and name? How do I feel compared to he/his? - Would you want to present as a girl full time, and be seen as such? Hope I helped
Hey Astral! Well in answer to those questions, I would say. 1. It's okay but it's not who I want to be if that makes sense, I don't like being hairy, I really hate it, even when shaved, I know it's still there and it really upsets me. 2. I prefer being called she/her. People have done it by accident before and it's been a great feeling. They apologise annd I'm like no don't!!! 3. Being a girl full time sounds frickin wonderful, I'd love to be seen in that way.
Well based off your replies I'd say you're most likely transgender. The best way would be to begin with little steps, like cross-dressing and painting your nails. If that becomes comfortable, consider taking those steps further! I was waay to impatient for my hair to grow out that I bought a wig too, literally is the game changer for passing and not for me Just take it day by day, and don't force anything. What's meant to happen, will! xo
I think we are in the same boat. Even though I know I'm a beautiful girl inside I had alot of really confusing emotions leading up to deciding that I wanted to transtion. The main question I asked myself was, do I want to stay the same way, all I could think about was how much my mind is dissoccected from my body. I also think I will pass once HRT is underway. Talking to people can help you get a sence of where you should be in terms of wanting to transition. Just be true to yourself.
I have been talking to my transgender friend today (mtf) who is now a beautiful lady and I think I definitely wan hormones and to transition.
I think transitioning is more of a need than a want. Even if you don't have much or any dysphoria, it can still be the right choice. Good counseling can go along way to having a healthy transition. The last thing you or anyone would want is regret. I'm happy that you have the courage to take the first steps into a new life. I'm just glad that I'm not alone in the world, and have people that I can confide in. (*hug*) PS: youtube is your best friend.
