Am I trans for the wrong reason?

First of all, its not wrong nor will it ever be for you to feel like a girl in a guy's body and i dont think that you are justifying your feelings for your depression, from what you have said about your experiences i do think that you are transgender

 

Hahaha I connect with this a LOT. So. Nobody has any right to tell you your feelings. They don't feel them. They can't see them. And. AND they set their own feelings on top. They project.
You feel like a girl. Like that's your role. Right? So then you're not wrong. I don't insist or ask to be called or referenced as a female. In fact I recognize that his is the body I got given and even of I don't like it it is what others see. And their opinions matter. Not a lot but they are valuable to me. So if they call me a boy I don't say anything. I should perhaps. But I see their fears or confusion. It's not a big deal.

You are not less of a girl by being stuck in your habits or your body.
And just because you are identified and make people more comfortable as a man you are probably a much more beautiful woman. It's ok to take your friends opinions into consideration. It's sweet compassionate and, funnily, quite girly. So.
Do you think that he is any less of a man if he acts caring or compassionate or frilly from time to time?

You are you. So breathe. You're doing it for the right reasons. It's what you feel like. I get that peace and that tingle in my heart when I act like my internal gender too.

 

Hahaha of course it is. I woodwork and I fix stuff, I am considering creating a little forge in my garage and I smoke a pipe. Those are all REALLY manly things. But I don't know a single physics/medieval geek on earth who would pass up a chance to make a sword of their very own using their knowledge of metals. It's fun. I like my hobbies. But just because I have hobbies doesn't mean I'm a boy. Plenty of women smoke pipes. Plenty of women love to sculpt and create art with their hands or be self reliant. It's how I was raised. Your likes and wants, if they come from the girl within you, are no more manly than if a girl did them.

no, I get it. I did the same. I started painting my nails last week and I finally opened up to it and since then I have blown open to myself and I am perceiving everything in a more natural way. I don't hate myself for acting "gay" (feminine) or for showing how happy I am by showing it like a girl might. Nobody seems to care and it makes me happy. I went from 0-60 and I wish I could change my body too but. It IS a one way path and it might be best to just take a breath and enjoy what you do have while you're here. You're feeling vindicated and at peace for once right? That's a new feeling. Don't take it for granted. I'm reveling in it. But I'm trying to be cautious. Nobody's opinion matters but yours. But if you go slow I've heard it makes it easier, socially, and I imagine it gives you ime to appreciate it more.

I get it. I feel the same. But it's the way it makes you feel. Are you just excited or are you finally being you and just nervous about it? I feel like me and I'm shy. I'm afraid nobody will like me anymore. But they will. And if they leave then another closer friend will take their place. Change sucks. But if it's real you will feel it soon.

 

I don't think anyone can instantly pass as a woman suddenly, but in your situation, actually dressing and putting make up can help. Buying woman's clothes is a must, but it sound like you have depression...

 

That's a valid point. Personally, I don't know if I'm going to ever get surgery done on my downstairs. I'm feeling pretty happy just wearing glasses that hide my thick eyebrows and acting how I feel. Maybe just ACTING how you feel and not shaming yourself can help express it a bit if that makes sense. Unless it's the visual side of things that you're most concerned with.

 

I don't think there can really be a "wrong reason" to be trans. If you feel more comfortable identifying as a girl, then do it. It doesn't matter if you feel like you don't act like other trans people, because not all cisgender people act the same, do they?

If you enjoy being a girl, then that is how you feel and no one can speak for you on that. If you decide later that you're not trans, or maybe that you are some non-binary or genderqueer identity, that's fine too! Just remember that no one can say how you feel or who you are. Only you can.

Best of luck to you. (*hug*)

 

Hahahaha I'm about at the same place. Wig sounds weird, and a dress is scary. But I'm sure one step at a time will eliminate the fear. It's anxiety. I was thinking the same thing before. Maybe that makes me cisgender. But it doesn't eliminate how I feel. Right?

As for opinions,I understand. I mean to say that while they are valid, their opinions are uninformed. They don't feel what you do. And therefore it's hard to give them weight.
In my opinion ;pHaha

I think going slow for me involves acting like a girl first, maybe crossbressing later, and coming out about it to a few people first so I can perhaps open up and be more brave around them in an effort to explore more. I do hope to keep in touch with you though. You've been reading my mind, just seem more concerned, about the same worries I have, than I am.

 

You are who you are miss, I say embrace it; don't fear it.

 

Well as of right now? You're as much you as you can handle. And you can delay any change as long as you want.Someone reminded me today that I can't mess up. I can step back. I can choose to be a girl. I can be androgynous. Anything I want. And it is all up to me. So. I hope you feel more confident and sure. It's a weird world we live in. I hope you share your learnings with me Too!

 

Yeah, that makes sense, I'm struggling with my gender myself and don't want to regret whatever the ultimate answer to this matter is; so I can relate to how you feel.

 

Hmm, might be something to keep in mind.

But yeah, I wish you luck in discovering yourself, and hope that it all works out.

 

Self doubt is a very real thing that most if not all trans people have to deal with. I sometimes get a feeling that I don't need to transition or that I should stay as a male. Since everyone addresses me as a male anyways. I try to remind myself that the reason that I want to transition is that I can't be happy or express myself as a man. Wearing boys clothing at home makes my hair turn grey. I feel no connection to my body as it currently is. That feeling really stinks, and I want to be able to have the breasts that I know I feel on my flat chest, and maybe some day, lady parts.

I don't think I have bought a single piece of boys clothing in over 20 years. I'm always excited to go shopping as a woman. There's so much selection, and amazing outfits, although some are kinda over priced. My wardrobe turned out really well, though heels that fit are hard to find. :tears:

You should do what is going to make you the most happy. I want to life a stress free life, full of new adventures. Even through all the ups and downs of transitioning, I know it will all be worth it in the end.