So I will be heading to college this fall. I am thinking that I would like to come out sometime this year, and finally be seen as male. But I'm having a bathroom issue. At first I will have to use the female bathrooms, as that is what I present as since I am not out. However, I might start taking hormones before I officially come out, and people already sometimes get uncomfortable with me in a female bathroom because I seem male, so that would just increase that issue. On the other hand, when I come out, I would then need to use the male restrooms. I am not comfortable with this. I have always used female restrooms, and whenever I have tried to use a male bathroom I feel uncomfortable and get some anxiety, mostly about getting caught or found out I guess, which would no longer be applicable, but still.... So I am uncomfortable in male spaces and female spaces (also, what would I do if I have to move to a male dorm room? Especially in the middle of the year.. There are no transgender/gender neutral living spaces or bathrooms) and because I am stupid, I chose to go to a somewhat conservative school in Montana, where people are somewhat accepting, but definitely not super understanding... So I just don't know what I should do with the entire situation. Any advice?
About the bathroom thing, all I can say is walk in confident, you may be nervous at first, but I think if you're confident and act like you belong there, you'll have a much easier time and may not cause anyone to take a second glance. You can have a look at this: Hudson's Guide: Swimming and Locker Room Tips for Trans Men, you may want to look at the early transition and etiquette parts. Hope all goes well.
