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Not Really Transistioning Advice

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Posthuman666, Jul 25, 2015.

  1. Posthuman666

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    I recently came out as trans. My parents are still kinda in a sort of shock, and are digesting things. I know this takes time, I know, but there are some little requests I want to ask of my parents but I don't want to rush things.

    I *really* want to shave my legs. I have hairy ass legs for my age, and it is a huge dysphoria trigger. My parents haven't officially said no., but not officially said yes either.But they won't even give me a real razor to shave my face. And I feel so bad every time I see my legs, which is often, it just reminds me of my biological sex and how I have a penis, and lack breasts, and have to wear guy clothes and everyone calls me "he", and all this other horrible crap. But they keep saying they need to digest things. I get that, you just learned your son is actually your daughter. But anything that will relieve dysphoria is something I want. Shaving my legs isn't even a big deal either. Most people don't go around intensely analyzing others legs. Even if someone notices that I shaved my legs, it's not a big deal. I could even just say something like "my legs were itchy" and never have to talk about it again. It's really messing me up.

    I also really would like to get girly shampoo and soap and all that. Most people don't smell me intensely, and most of the time you can't smell the soap scent after a few hours. It would give me that extra emotional boost that I need right now. That is a somewhat more substantial thing than shaving my legs, but I think it would be nice. Having to open the manly scented soap every day when I shower just hits hard. It just reminds me I have to pretend and wear this costume.

    The most substantial of my wishes is the need to wear panties. Wearing famine underwear instead of boxer briefs would be the most amazing thing I can do before actually transitioning. No one would see it, but it would be so amazing. I have a lot of body dysphoria, especially downstairs. Having that little boost would be phenomenal. Like I said, no would see, but it would make the biggest difference.

    In the future, before I transition, I do want to be referred to by she and her, and my chosen name, Aisling. That is a big deal. My little brothers, family members and friends would have to know, which right now I'm pretty sure is the last thing my parents want. So that won't happen for a while.

    I know they love me and support me, but I just really need this. It is so impossible having to deal with this everyday. My therapist reminded me that the biggest problem within families of trans kids is that they rush things. He hinted at it just being a phase, but said he meant no offense, but it still hurt. I love my family but I just really want these simple things, and eventually work on more advance things like pronouns and name. I do really want to see a gender specialist, for support and help, plus it's the first step towards HRT. the LGBT+ center in my area has a gender variant group that meets every other week, which I really want to go to. The also have open night a few times a week which would be really cool to go to.

    Am I being insane? I'm I being rude by asking these?