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This Is Kind Of Dumb...

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by SirensCallingMe, Jul 29, 2015.

  1. SirensCallingMe

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    So, for a long time, I've been okay with my gender, but every once and a while I wish I wasn't a girl, not because of periods or anything (although I do really hate them) but I'd feel a lot more comfortable as a boy. These feelings have persisted for a while, and I don't know if I'm genderfluid or what? I mean, I feel I fit the general description, but I talked to a friend about it and they told me I probably wasn't, just that I wanted to be genderfluid. I don't want to believe them, but I don't know what I'm doing anymore. I'd appreciate some help.

    -Siren
     
  2. Invidia

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    Hi. (*hug*)

    First, what matters is one thing only - your feelings. If you don't feel comfortable as female it's good for your own happiness to explore other things.
    Don't let what people say get you down. (*hug*)

    Could you give us some more information about how you feel? You say you think you'd be more comfortable as a boy? What else do you feel about your gender?
     
  3. Matz

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    My first guess would be to look into whether this is about personality traits (and what women are or aren't expected to have where you live) or something deeper.
     
  4. SirensCallingMe

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    Hi :slight_smile: Thank you. Often times because I'm DFAB and use female pronouns I feel insignificant to my family. I've tried kind of a home-made binding (basically just a really tight sports bra and a tight shirt) and dressing in baggier clothes to hide my breasts when I go out on errands sometimes and I feel a lot more confident with myself. I've even made a separate Instagram account than my old one and I introduce myself with a unisex name instead of my birth one, which is blatantly female, and it feels more comfortable.